12/15/2008

Using Food During Sex

Food is often considered a sexy, kinky addition to sex. While there is nothing wrong with this, using food the wrong way can be dangerous. Here's our guide on when and how to use food in the bedroom.

A good general rule for sex is: No insertion! This makes some people sad, as some people have an obsession with finding kinky foods to stick up places it shouldn't go. Common examples are phallic objects like bananas and cucumbers; ginger for "figging"; or irritants like alcohol, wasabi, hot sauce, pepper sauce, and other spicy/stingy foods for pain play.

The problem with inserting food into a vagina, anus, or penis is that these are all mucous membranes. This means they are highly sensitive and absorb chemicals quickly. It is also nearly impossible to get all the food remnants out later, no matter how well you wash. Somewhere warm and moist like a vagina will find any molecules of food left over and harmful bacteria will begin to grow, making you incredibly sick. And water often just spreads the food around.

Sugar is a favorite kinky food (fruits, dips, desserts, champagne, and other sweets!), but it particularly dangerous. The natural, healthy bacteria inside a vagina will feed off the sugar and grow exponentially, resulting in painful yeast infections, urinary tract infections, or bladder infections. Not only are all these illnesses incredibly painful, but they require professional medical treatment, medication, and weeks of pain and no sex to heal.

If you want to use food up your read end, generally the more natural a product is, the less it can hurt you. So processed or man-made foods are out (like alcohol). Natural foods like peppers or ginger can be used, but be warned--the linings of the anus are delicate and will absorb the chemicals fast! In other words, it will hurt. :) Also, you can damage, tear, or inflame the tissue, causing rectal bleeding after sex or when you poop. Sometimes you can cause a rash or deaden the nerve endings. Just be cautious about inserting anything into your body other than a clean, washed body part or sex toy.

But cheer up: this doesn't mean food play is out. You can use food all over the body for foreplay, as long as you take care not to get it in the blody! Edible syrup, chocolte syrup, and sweet fruits can be safely used on the stomach, breasts, legs, and buttocks--anywhere covered with skin, with no openings into the body. Also, you can generally lick food off the outside of your genitals, so long as you avoid getting it inside.

If sex just doesn't seem as like "sex" without some sort of insertion, try pairing food in one spot with insertion in another. You can lick syrup off nipples while holding a vibrator inside your lover or stimulating her clit and G-spot with one hand. Or have her lie face-down or kneel doggie-style and sensually nibble fruit off her back while giving her some light anal fingering with the other hand.

Some sexy ideas: strawberries and champagne, a selection of sweet fruits to feed each other, whipped cream, chocolate syrup, fruit dip (one of my favorites!), or chocolate fondue. Take turns dipping fruit into the fondu or chilled dip, then feeding each other and trailing the food across the other's skin, then licking it off. And a tip about licking: it feels better when you keep it small and light, touching the body with only a small part of your tongue (such as the tip). Lots of slobber or a full, large lick isn't sexy.

In my experience, honey and ice cream can get sticky, so put a tarp under you and head to the shower after play. Anything with sugar in it (including fruits, which have natural sugars) gets sticky, so a tarp or old sheet is a must. It is probably a good idea to keep a damp towel close by so you can wipe your hands when you are done.

Happy eating!

Sources:
http://en.allexperts.com/q/BDSM-2733/Figging.htm
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080126161531AA9sBOy

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