Once she's in the bedroom, try massaging her in some sexy spots that don't automatically lead to orgasm. The nipples are a good place to start, and can even lead to orgasm. For me, there are several areas men can rub, scratch, or stroke that will eventually get me really aroused, but that they never try. Sometimes a nice, firm butt massage will get me hot and bothered faster than anything. I love having my butt rubbed and squeezed, and my lover doesn't seem to do it enough! Whether you are watching her cook and come up behind her for a nice long feel, or just massage her ass while she lies on top of you making love, it feels great.
Another great area is to start with a hand massage; this will relax her (a back massage will relax her, but also make her sleepy...so I don't recommend it) and get her skin used to your hands. Then slowly spend some time lying in silence, softly stroking up and down her arm with your fingertips and lightly tracing her skin with your nails. First, she will get really relaxed. Then, it will start to tickle and tingle (in a good way!) and she will probably giggle or twitch slightly. Just keep going....slooooowly and softly. Finally, you will notice her breathing start to change and her inner elbows and wrists will get more sensitive. When this happens, she is starting to get aroused.
For women, this is a whole-body arousal, not necessarily sexual or related to the genitals. It is more a warm, tingly feeling of love and happiness that spreads throughout your body, relaxing you and making your nerve endings extra sensitive. This whole-body arousal can be turned in to sexual arousal, if you like, or can just continue for a relaxing, bonding experience that leaves her warm and happy! Eventually, if she gets turned on enough, she will kiss you slowly and sensually and you know you've won! Kiss her back, taking your time and enjoying it, letting her feel your warm breath in her mouth, nuzzling her face and neck softly with your face, and slowly easing yourself on top of her so she can feel your weight pressed against her body. Let things heat up slowly from there; don't rush!
Another great non-sexual way to get this same feeling is by stroking her back. While a full-on back rub will probably make me sleepy, simply having my back stroked often makes me go through a variety of responses: first pleasure, then relaxation, then sleepy, then more relaxed, then tingly, then giggly, then warm, then hyper-aware of the man touching me, and eventually, turned on. Stroking her back, buttocks, arms, palms, armpits (yes, armpits are an erogenous zone! Really!), and hair will all make her feel sleep, relaxed, and sensuous.
More overtly sexual areas, like the breasts, nipples, thighs, and stomach can be turn-ons, but they have both pros and cons. The pro is that it takes less time to get a woman worked up that way. The con is that even though it takes less time, it is less likely to lead to high levels of arousal. For me, really high, long-lasting arousal is only possible if my lover has taken hours of cuddling and stroking to slowly awaken my body non-sexually. These always lead to the best passion!
The point is, be creative and don't ever rush. Take time to enjoy making love, even if it doesn't culminate in sex. Slow down, breathe deeply, and relax. This will seduce your woman's heart.
For women, this is a whole-body arousal, not necessarily sexual or related to the genitals. It is more a warm, tingly feeling of love and happiness that spreads throughout your body, relaxing you and making your nerve endings extra sensitive. This whole-body arousal can be turned in to sexual arousal, if you like, or can just continue for a relaxing, bonding experience that leaves her warm and happy! Eventually, if she gets turned on enough, she will kiss you slowly and sensually and you know you've won! Kiss her back, taking your time and enjoying it, letting her feel your warm breath in her mouth, nuzzling her face and neck softly with your face, and slowly easing yourself on top of her so she can feel your weight pressed against her body. Let things heat up slowly from there; don't rush!
Another great non-sexual way to get this same feeling is by stroking her back. While a full-on back rub will probably make me sleepy, simply having my back stroked often makes me go through a variety of responses: first pleasure, then relaxation, then sleepy, then more relaxed, then tingly, then giggly, then warm, then hyper-aware of the man touching me, and eventually, turned on. Stroking her back, buttocks, arms, palms, armpits (yes, armpits are an erogenous zone! Really!), and hair will all make her feel sleep, relaxed, and sensuous.
More overtly sexual areas, like the breasts, nipples, thighs, and stomach can be turn-ons, but they have both pros and cons. The pro is that it takes less time to get a woman worked up that way. The con is that even though it takes less time, it is less likely to lead to high levels of arousal. For me, really high, long-lasting arousal is only possible if my lover has taken hours of cuddling and stroking to slowly awaken my body non-sexually. These always lead to the best passion!
The point is, be creative and don't ever rush. Take time to enjoy making love, even if it doesn't culminate in sex. Slow down, breathe deeply, and relax. This will seduce your woman's heart.
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Another sensual thing to do is a shampoo! If you have ever been given a shampoo in the shower, it is the most sensually erotic experience!
Gina
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