Being a girl, I was both amazed and confused by the BDSM phenomenon of Small Penis Humiliation (SPH). I found out about this unique fetish in a Fetlife chat group of men raving about the turn on of, you guessed it, being humiliated about the worthless size of their tiny penises. Even men who didn't have small penises sometimes enjoyed it! And here I was under the impression that all men had a Freudian complex and wanted bigger, better, thicker, and meaner pieces of meat.
Like a true little journalist, I set to work right away digging up all I could about the SPH fetish. And to my great delight and profound gratefulness, I found many men on Fetlife willing to talk to me about their, um, small genitals, how it started becoming sexy for them, and why and how they enjoy SPH now. Read on for what my interviews revealed...!
Q: Why do men even enjoy SPH?
Two of my interviewees said their SPH fetish began for them in their teens, during gym class. They both had experiences with boys in gym pointing and laughing. One even had the boys come up, touch him, force him to touch their penises, make him masturbate, and call him queer. While this is a terrible testament to the cruelty of teenagers, both my interviewees grew past it. They began associating small penises with humiliation, and eventually with sexual pleasure. Since many, many people enjoy humiliation or degradation play as part of BDSM, I can see how this would make sense.
Q: Doesn't SPH hurt their feelings? :(
I asked all the interviewees if PSH hurt their feelings; as a girl, this would be my fear! They all said no; it had hurt their feelings at first, but eventually they grew immune to it. One said he just realized he couldn't help it, as he could his weight or his hair color, and decided not to worry about it but enjoy getting the SPH attention he craved. Another said he grew up and realized it was his mind and heart that made him a man, and not what was between his legs. (Kudos to him, I say!)
I also talked to two men who consider themselves average, but still enjoy humiliation or SPH. One told me he enjoys it because it is the most humiliating thing to be tormented over, and so the emotions are more intense and thus more enjoyable! Others pointed out to me that they enjoy this type of humiliation so much they make it a point to tell others how tiny they are, so they can be laughed at and subsequently turned on. One man told me he wasn't sure he would like to try SPH, as it might hurt his tender male ego, but then thoughtfully added, "Although... I suppose that's the point, isn't it?" :)
Q: Do women enjoy giving SPH?
Well, the point of being a Domme is to make your partner submit, and many Dommes truly enjoy giving emotional and psychological pain. I did read about a woman who enjoyed doing SPH to her lover (he also enjoyed it). She never let him have sex, saying he was "too small," and forced him to be a sex toy at parties with her friends: he had to give sexual favors or receive anal sex from anyone who wanted to use him. Obviously, this is not a biblically-accepted sexual behavior, so I wouldn't recommend it for Christians!
Q: Are there women who enjoy small penises?
I found one (ONE!) woman in all of Fetlife who was loudly proclaiming that she prefers tiny penises. (Sorry, guys, all my life experience and internet research indicates women do, indeed, prefer above-average penises...) I tried to contact her to ask her about it, but she slammed back an e-mail saying she would not deign to talk to someone interested in SPH, and wouldn't talk to me. My subsequent emails were ignored. Ouch! Personally, I consider it silly to refuse to answer someone's questions just because they may not agree with you.... how else would we ever learn about each other?!
Q: Do all men like SPH?
When I asked my Dom about this, he basically said that SPH did not turn him on at all.... it made him sad, hurt, angry, or defensive. Of course, we were trying this via email and not in person, and I'm sure being in person would make a difference, but heed the warning: many guys don't like having their penises made fun of, and saying it is too small is especially close to many tender male hearts, so don't ever just start berating your guy for his tiny manhood before you discuss this with him first!
Q: What about men with average or large penises? Where do they fit into SPH?
Well, I found some average-size men who were very open to SPH. One of my interviewees told me he knew several average men who had a complex about size, either because some woman told them they weren't large enough for them, left them for someone bigger, or complained about the man coming too soon. Others were teased about their penises in childhood or during teenage years, or raised in a strict religious setting where they were taught penises were disgusting, dirty, and evil. Also, one Domme said she had a partner with a huge penis, and tormented him about it, saying he was too big for her and she would rather have a "normal" partner. It seems many men are sensitive about their penises, no matter what their size.
Q: What activities are part of SPH play?
Well, three of my interviewees told me the idea about SPH that most turns them on. Ironically, all three men separately told me they fantasize about being paraded around naked in front of a group of people and laughed at. They said they would not find this hurtful, but very sexy and exciting. Of course, the details differed (one man wanted to be blindfolded, another to be forced to play with himself so he could be teased about the size of his erection), but I found it very intriguing that all three separately had this same fantasy about public torment over their size! Another also added he would like to be a cuckold, which means someone who is forced to watch his Domme have sex with someone else. I wrote back to ask him why this was, and he replied, saying he is too small to please someone sexually during intercourse, but having a sexless relationship with his Domme while being forced to watch her have sex with people who were "more man" then he was would be very exciting for him.
Q: I'm a Christian, so parading my husband around naked in public or making him watch me screw someone else isn't really an option. Can SPH fit into a Christian sex life?
Yes, of course; it just won't include other people! If you or your husband (or both!) are interested in trying SPH, talk about what he would like: how should you make fun of him, what things turn him on or off about it, what humiliation would excite him? Verbally and emotionally, you can ridicule or tease him about his size. Physically, you can make him stand naked while you tease him or measure him. You can even buy Male Chastity Cages (small cages that lock around the penis and you carry the key!), engage in Cock and Ball Torture (CBT), or force him to wear a strap-on a dildo for added physical humiliation. The ideas are limitless; just make sure it's consenual and all in good fun!
5 comments:
Nicely written about "us".
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And while I would agree with part of that last question, I think the parading around could be an option.
I enjoyed your "little" article. I prefer the term small penis tease as I enjoy the more humorous side of the verbal tease.
Your ideas of measuring or cages would be fun to say the least!
My childhood was spent avoiding showers after gym class. I think what I have is now called a micro penis. Flaccid it either retreats into my body or sticks out about 1 1/4". Erect it is about twice that size. Intercourse is physically impossible unless I date a contortionist. I ended up dating girls that were saving themselves for marriage which was a big thing 50 years ago,lesbians who were in the closet of girls who wanted a boyfriend to dominate and support them. I was cuckolded by three girlfriends, one without my knowledge or approval. I did not expect them to go without intercourse so as long as they were discrete I never asked and they never told.
I wanted to get married and then I met my wife. She is unable to have intercourse without pain or conceive children due to several medical issues which they probably could fix now but not then. She was upfront with me the first time I stuck my hand under her panties. She also never had a boyfriend or sex of any kind with a man. She dated girls because there was only oral sex. Back in those days, anal sex was not something women even thought about. There was no internet or cable TV to show us things.
Long story short, we got married, made a drunken attempt to consummate the marriage and I ended up cummming on the sheets and we called it a consummation of the marriage and never had intercourse again. We are married for 45 years. On the plus side, my wife still had sexual preference for women, not for romance, dating or marriage, just for sex and only in a threesome with me. She felt it was cheating if I did not participate plus it offered her many opportunities to feed my small penis humiliation fetish. Many a woman got to see and giggle at my penis. However, they never giggled when I performed orals sex on them. To my surprise, most liked to perform oral on me because I was the first male they could fit completely into their mouth. Our sex life was actually very good.
My story shows how two people can turn a sexual disadvantage into a fun sexual game. When I got old and could not get an erection again, even with pills, my wife had me buy and use a custom chastity cage which I have worn 24/7 for the last 3 years. This year I only had 3 orgasm and in 2016 my wife wants to live out her fantasy of denying me orgasms for the entire year and taking advantage of how I am when constantly aroused. She actually would like if I never had an orgasm but knows that is not practical or fair to me. Of course, my penis is the reason for this and the punishments she hands out to me. We made it work.
I have an averaged sized 6" cock and love to watch my girl friend whom im engaged with fuck my best friend, in front if me. He has a 10" cock but i then join in and mainly take anal amd oral. I aslo love whereing changes and inserting dildos in to my girl and getting slapped. Even though i have an average sized dick.
Actually there are a lot of women who prefer small ones, and a lot of the ones who don't, if they're in a real loving relationship don't mind if the guy is small. I am also into SPH but this is a comforting thought for me.
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