I'd been reading up on fisting and revving myself up for a try. The web has lots of good resources for this: About.com has instructios for fisting; Babeland has a great how-to article on fisting as well.
Fisting is often seen as a gay (anal) or lesbian (vaginal) activity. I'm not sure why, since if lesbian women enjoy having a fist inside them, why wouldn't straight women? To my knowledge, all humans have similar sexual makeup and therefore, similar sexual responses.
Fisting sounds totally sexy, but it can be scary. I like to be filled up as much as the next gal, but it can take a lot of work and stretching and being turned on to get me there! So I was understandably nervous about this.
My Dom mentioned several months ago that he was intrigued by fisting. As the unofficial researcher of the couple, I did my research. Everything I read said it was difficult but worth it. Some of the purported benefits include a heightened sense of vulnerability during sex, more intense stimulation, a guaranteed orgasm, and closer emotional connection. Sounds good, no?
We talked about it and I shared my resources. Once we had both read up on the subject, we decided--three or four months after it was first brought up!--to go for it.
We decided not to make the fisting part of scene, since it was so new to both of us. We had lube and towels ready, and got ourselves comfortable on our big bed. My Dom spent as much time as I needed getting me to relax and get used to one finger, then two, then three (this started to hurt and get sore) and eventually four.
So, my first experience with fisting? Not as easy as it sounds!
First, even lubricant can't alter the harsh reality: I am small-boned. While my Dom is a fairly small man as well, his hands are about a normal size. Stretching my vagina was difficult, but still possible--it seemed sore and uncomfortable at some points, but muscle and skin can be stretched nonethless.
Bone, however, cannot. We managed to get in most of his fist, at great discomfort to me, because my pelvic bone hindered his knuckles from going completely in. No matter how much I spread my legs, relaxed, and took deep breaths, his knuckles still pressed painfully against my tender pelvic bones, making them feel bruised.
The experience was worth it to try, and we will be trying again (I hate to fail at anything!). Rest assured, I'll keep you updated when I figure out how to do it correctly, even with a small-boned woman. When we do, I'll upload the tips here!
Til then, be safe, enjoy the Easter season, and if any of you have tips to help us on our next fisting attempt, please let me know! :)
1 comment:
When he gets to the knuckle part, have him angle his fist down towards your spine. If you can fit a baby through your pelvic region you can fit a hand(usually), maybe he was angled up too high?
Next attempt, have an orgasm first, then go at it. Your inner walls will expand some and it might be easier with the stretching.
Oh and if it starts to get uncomfortable but not painful, try bearing down, it temporarily helps open the vagina for easier insertion.
I'm experienced with fisting, and my Dominant has large hands. He can get it in, but no further than the base of his thumb, which tells me that I have a shallow vaginal track. It's still great!
Hope these tips help!
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