2/07/2009

Punching Fetish


I've just heard about a new fetish that honestly cracks me up: punching fetish. While of course I don't have any statistics about the prevalancy of this fetish, a cursory browse through Fetlife and Google suggests that, while it definitely exists, there are not huge numbers of BDSMers practicing it. Still, I thought it was interesting and worth pursuing here!
Any sort of hitting can be incorporated into BDSM. From what I've heard, probably the most common type is slapping. I've even had a few "vanilla" boys give me a light face slap during making out to turn me on (or turn them on?). My current Dom, back before I had even an inkling this sweet Christian man would turn out to be a dom, surprised both of us in our dating relationship by hauling back and slapping me across the face once while we were making out; he says he has never forgotten my subsequent expression. :)
If you are into hitting, slapping of course is the safest way to go. Many men don't like the idea of punching a woman, afraid they will do serious damage to her face or body, even if they are comfortable giving her an open-palm slap. This is because slaps sting, but rarely do much tissue damage. A punch can break skin, bruise, blacken eyes, break noses, and shatter cheekbones.
The next type of hit you might want to try is the back-handed slap. I've had this done to me, too, and it hurts more than a slap but not so much as to be unbearable. Also, there is something just so deliciously degrading about a man backhanding a woman--like she is his slave or his dog! Yum.
If you are worried about getting into a full-on face punch, let me remind you: your punch will only be as hard as you make it. From what I've read, men who punch their partners are careful to act angry and out of control while actually taking care to measure the strength behind their punch. They often aim carefully for the more solid parts of the face (cheek) than for areas that will break or blacken (jaw, nose, eyes) and stop the punch "on impact" rather than following through like they would if they were fighting an enemy for real. Of course, if you try this, aim carefully! The benefit of a punch is it will deliver a much more solid, thudd-y type of pain than a slap or backhand. Of course, it also has shock value!
Another sneaky trick is to punch as hard as you can, near her head, so she thinks you are actually going to punch her. A full-on punch to the bed, pillow, or wall next to her face will get you a convincing reaction worth the pain in your hand (if you hit a wall; I doubt a feather pillow will do you much damage).
Hitting, punching, slapping, and other delicious hands-on BDSM activities are not limited to just the face, either. Fetishes exist for almost every type of punching imaginable: body punching, face punching, gut/belly punching, ass punching, thigh punching, and--bizarrely--cunt punching and perineum punching (to the former: oww!; to the latter: how do you aim for that tiny spot anyway?).
The Doms involved swear that beating your sub with your own hands (or knees, feet, body, whatever) is a far greater joy than simply beating her with distant and detached toys. The physical connection is greater between the two people, which for some means a greater emotional and sexual satisfaction. Biting, scratching, kicking, kneeing, hair-pulling, slapping, hitting, and punching their subs gives them far greater pleasure than hitting them with a paddle or whip.
If this sounds like you and your partner, have a go! Take it slowly, because some people bruise easier than others. As always with BDSM safety, remember to stay clear of important parts you want to protect, like the head and skull (her brain lives there), lower back and stomach (her vital organs), spinal cord, or anywhere that causes a "bad" pain as opposed to the "give me more" kind. Other than that, dish it out and see what your sub can take!

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

I'm Matilda from South Africa. I think that there is too much taboo about punching. Being beaten with fists is fantastically erotic and very natural.My husband has beaten me up since the beginning of our relationship. Wife beating is much more real and beneficial if it takes the form of punching. I'm kicked in my genitals quite often too. I am not always an obedient wife and I find the fact of being adequately punished very important for my own self respect.

Sexperts said...

Matilda,

Does your husband hit you for sex, or in other areas of life too (i.e. if he is angry at you)?

I also wonder how him hitting you makes you feel self respect? Since he is making you do something, not you doing it?

Anonymous said...

He never beats me out of anger but it is done for punishment. If I do wrong I find that the fact of being punished is very important to draw a line under the wrongdoing. If it goes unpunished the guilt festers and depresses me.
Thank you for replying,

Matilda

Sexperts said...

I see, so you guys have more of a "Taken in Hand" kind of relationship, then?

You say if you go unpunished you feel guilty. So the punishment is something you enjoy and invite to help you alleviate guilt. Does your husband also enjoy it or does he do it for you?

How do you cover or explain any bruises that may be left over?

Anonymous said...

We are both from Zulu Natal where wife beating is not all that frowned upon, so getting my face bruised is hardly a big deal. Like you I love to be punched. Being spanked is too much like school. It is not consensual at all in the sense that I have no say in whether I get hit or not. The vast majority of women across the African continent endorse the male right to beat. This is reinforced by traditional marriage advisers who encourage women and girls to accept being hit as a part of the natural order. My husband never talks about his feelings but I know that he loves to beat me. No matter how hard he hits me I really enjoy his enjoyment.

Sexperts said...

I hope afterward he takes good care of you!

Anonymous said...

He does really nicely. My Enjoyment of sex is greatly enhanced by the fact that my husband dominates me and beats me.

Does your master kick your genitals?

Sexperts said...

No, he doesn't kick or punch me. We are too afraid it would cause permanent damage. Sometimes he slaps me but usually I don't like it and cry. He likes to choke me, bite me, and hurt me in other ways though that we both enjoy.