11/05/2011

Why are you here if you don't want to be here?

Lately I've been watching a lot of Scrubs. That show is so funny! I don't know why I never got into that much before. Some of my favorite lines:


  1. Janitor: You don't think there's kids whose goal in life is to make the world sparkle?



  2. Todd: dum-da-dum-dum, Shiny Scapel! dum-da-da-dum, gonna cut him up!



  3. J.D.: We were so close. In college, we shared a toothbrush. Turk: I was not aware of that. J.D.: We did.






I digress.


You know in that show, the characters of Perry and Jordan? They are married, but they seem to hate each other. They are never nice to each other. They constantly belittle and insult each other. She likes to make him feel like a wuss and he likes to compare her to Satan. And I wonder, even if it's just playful banter, do couples like that even like each other? And if not, why are they together?






Most bloggers seem to really like their spouses. It's refreshing to read about women who respect and like their husbands, and husbands who seem to adore and spoil their wives. You get the sense that these two people actually like each other. Their kids are lucky to see that in their homes every day.






Some people in this lifestyle don't seem to like or love their Masters. They complain about them, call them an "asshole", or talk about how demanding and jerk-ish they are.


Sure, I get that in any relationship we have fights and times when we don't like each other as much. But if you have no respect or like for someone, why are you with him?


And what can we do to keep the like, respect, and love alive even when it's hard?

2 comments:

Conina said...

Scrubs is awesome, we love it too!

As for Perry and Jordan, I was under the impression that they wouldn't have stayed together if not for the sprout.

I was just talking to my husband last night about women who angst over their dominants, and angst over having their own feelings about something. Gasp! The kind of "this relationship isn't about me, it's about him," thinking that just sort of goes around in circles and swirls around the drain for a while before it finally succumbs to the pull of gravity.

It doesn't really make any sense. If the relationship wasn't about the submissive at all, then there wouldn't be a relationship, so of course the submissive matters. It seems so obvious. Even if what the submissive wants is to feel like she doesn't matter, then that's still her mattering, because of course he wouldn't treat her like that if she didn't want it.

Awesome topic!

rose said...

there are moments in Dr Cox's relationship where you notice that they actually really *do* love each other. Once they have Jack it's a bit more noticable. As much as they look like they hate each other on the outside, i really think inside they do love and respect each other, the just choose moments to show it.

Though maybe that's just the optimist in me.

Master and i banter like them sometimes. We 'fight' almost constantly, and we bicker. But we know there's a line there and sometimes He won't push it with me because He knows i'll be inclined to take Him seriously on that particular day, or because i've toed up to a line that we both know i won't cross. Because underneath all that, we do love, like and respect each other more than anything else in the world.

Banter and playfighting is just our way of adding intellectual challenge and engagement to our relationship. Keeping it fresh and having things to say to each other after all this time. It might look bad in places from the outside, but it's not like that at all from our perspective.

-r.