Submissive Training: Giving Good Head

Giving good oral sex is often an assumed part of any male-led D/s relationship. Also, it can be fun and add variety to your sex life.

If, like me, you have a ridiculously active gag reflex, or you hate the smell/taste of cock and balls, or you don't like the taste of semen..... welcome to the club! On the other hand, there are tips you can use that will help you give better head to your Dom or Master.

For Men:

• Shave, shave shave. No one wants to put their mouth on hairy balls.
• Shower before oral sex so you feel and smell clean
• Keep a damp towel nearby in case you start to sweat during the activity, which will make you smell bad
• Don't eat salty or bitter foods beforehand, since they can make semen taste stronger.
• Stay away from coffee (ewwww taste) or other dehydrating drinks (like soda). Drink lots of water and stay hydrated. This improves the taste of the semen a bit.
• Keep her informed of where you are in The Process. When mouths get sore and lips start to ache, it can be terrible to keep going with no idea if we are 30 seconds from takeoff, or 2 minutes, or 5 minutes, or 10 minutes. We need to know where you are so we can do a quick pain/benefit analysis and know whether to give up, take a break, or suck it up and keep going despite the pain.
• If your submissive has trouble with deepthroating or swallowing, and this is something you want, consider training her gradually to build up resistance.

For Subs and Slaves:

• Get comfortable. Put a pillow under your knees, get situated, and make sure you won't lose blood flow to your limbs.
• Have a bottle of water and some chapstick handy for when you need to take a small break.
• Try covering his cock with something that tastes good (I use cold strawberry frosting in a can) to block out unpleasant tastes
• If pre-cum makes you gag (it does me), keep a towel or t-shirt with you so you can wipe him off before starting again
• Suck on a piece of hard candy like a Jolly Rancher or Lifesaver to keep the saliva coming and to coat your throat
• Use Chloraseptic Throat Spray to numb the back of your throat (but put a condom on him, or you'll also numb his cock!)
• When your mouth gets too tired, alternate between kissing, licking, and massaging with your hand to give yourself a break
• Sip water or a flavored drink right after he ejaculates if you don't like the taste of semen

I know several subs who love pleasuring their Masters in this way--and of course, the men love to receive it! Giving good blow jobs to someone you love, trust, and serve can be a completely freeing exercise in submission.