Come On Command

A new fetish I've been learning about is called Come on Command, sometimes seen shortened to CoC.

This is one of thos fetishes that sounds just delightful to everyone who hears it. After all, orgasms are good = more orgasms are better. Who doesn't want to be able to come on command?


Basically, ths fetish takes a lot of training to do. It's hard work, both for the Dom and the sub, but many people find it worthwhile! (wink, wink). Come on command works just the way it sounds: the Dom conditions the sub to orgasm based on a specific verbal command.


Anyone who's trained dogs or children can tell you that conditioning is a lot of work and takes a lot of time. (Think Pavlov's dogs.) Especially since orgasms are so physical, it can be difficult to train a sub's brain so that they become completely psychological, but it's possible!

If you want to train your sub to Come on Command, be prepared to be patient, persistent, and consistent. Your task is to make your sub associate orgasming so strongly with a certain command you give him, that eventually the command alone will suffice to come.

Interested? Here's how:

1. First, decide upon your "cue." It needs to be the same word, delivered in the same tone and volume every time. You must be consistent!
2. Deny your sub orgasms for a while. Some tops spend weeks or months teasing and tormenting their subs, bringing them to the brink of orgasms every time, but never letting them fulfill it.
3. Allow your sub to orgasm, but only after you've delivered your "cue".
4. Keep the pattern of denial, completed by orgasming upon command, going.
5. Eventually, stop pleasuring your sub right before orgasm and utter the command. If he orgasms, give lots of positive praise. If he doesn't, utter the command and physically bring him to orgasm again to continue the training.
6. Repeat #s 3-5 as needed.

What are some of the pros of CoC? Obviously, it's hot. Many men and women are fascinated by the idea of being able to orgasm (or make someone orgasm) simply by a verbal command or physical cue (such as a face slap). And it's a delicious and powerful form of control for the top.

What are some of the cons of CoC? People tend to assumethere are no cons to something that sounds so cool as orgasm by command, but there are. First, it may not be possible for everyone, and it very difficult to train a sub to do. It takes lots of time, patience, consistency, and dedication. If you and your spouse get frustrated by the initial failures it could cause problems and unhappiness in your relationship. Also, it can be a dangerous kind of power. Because a sub is trained to orgasm at a certain word, tone, and facial expression from his Domme, he can lose the ability to come any other way--without the cue, on his own, or with someone else. Should the relationship end, the sub who is trained to orgasm with one Domme may find it impossible to come alone or with a new Domme.