5/10/2011

Whose Responsibility Is She?

Someone on FetLife posted a really great question. I honestly want to mull this one over for a bit. It's such a good question I thought I'd share:


When an adult sub acts bratty, rude, or misbehaves, whose responsibility is it?

Is it hers, because she is an adult and responsible for her own actions?

Or is it his, because he is her Top and he has taken on responsibility for her actions and decisions?

Thoughts?

4 comments:

MrJ said...

I would say: when this means non-compliance with agreed rules, this is her responsiblity but it becomes the dom's as well unless he applies proper discipline.

Indeed an intriguing question. I am interested in learning how subs feel about this.

MrJ said...

I should add something: ... proper discipline as well as proper guidance, of course...

Lea said...

I feel like its the responsibility of both. She is an adult,and she is responsible for her actions. He is her dominant, and if she chooses to act out of line, its his responsibility to get her back in the right place.

Sexperts said...

I agree. She is an adult, but the final responsibility lies with her Dom. It's like having an asst. manager and a manager... both have responsibility, but the final responsibility is with the higher-up boss. I think Ephesians 5 in the Bible also supports this view of a responsibility break-down in marriage.