9/24/2009

Oral Sex Tips You WON'T Find Online

I'm so tired of "sex advice" columns giving the same old, same old, same old advice. Whether you read it in Cosmo or someone's blog, the advice is pretty much the same.

Well, what about us women who don't really like oral sex when it's done that way? What about those of us who want oral sex in a different way that goes past the standard tips they give you?

Here's a few I've thought of, though I'm sure there are more:
  1. don't get too heavy on the saliva; clits like friction, and an overly wet finger or tongue just starts to feel slimy instead of good---and slimy is never sexy.
  2. once she's turned on (you can tell when she's bucking her hips), use your fingers to gently peel back the delicate skin of the hood and expose the tiny bead of her clit. Separate it from the skin, pull it into your mouth, and suck. Do this for about 5-10 seconds and then stop before it gets too intense.
  3. Use your tongue to create friction, not wet.
  4. Don't just use your tongue! Use your breath, your outer lips, and your inner lips.
  5. Put your face right next to her clit so your lips are barely touching her---and then talk to her. Tell her all the sexy things you're seeing or feeling. The movement of your breath and the feathery touch of your lips against her will drive her crazy.
  6. Try licking a larger area: lick lightly from her perineum all the way up to her mound, or reverse and lick all the way from the top to the bottom. Or try licking all the way horizontally from one inner thigh to the next. See what she likes; covering more ground can feel better than simply focusing on her vulva.
  7. Don't go to town on her clit like it's a lollipop--or a dick. Clits don't need constant stimulation to come; in fact, some of my most intense orgasms come from barely being touched at all. Try licking once, very lightly, and then pausing for 2-5 seconds before giving one more lick. If this makes her clit swell, she likes it! Focusing on spending more time away from her clit than on it.
  8. Bury your legs in her thighs.
  9. Moan. Either the sound will turn her on, the vibration from your mouth will, or both.
  10. She's very vulnerable now. Talk sexy to her, or dirty, or describe her pussy to her--whatever floats your boat. Focus on reminding her how vulnerable she is. Tell her what her sexuality and her vagina tell you about her--that she's open, and beautiful, and giving, and wanton, and everything good!
  11. Try giving just a HINT of pain. See if she likes it.
  12. Gently take the outer fold of her lips in your teeth or lips, just to give her a new sensation. Try nipping rather than biting.
  13. Try giving her a mix of fingers on her clit, mouth on her vulva, and fingers around the entrance to her vagina. Change what you're dong every few seconds or minutes, instead of just fingering her or just giving oral sex.
  14. Pull back her hood with your fingers and stretch the hood taut. This will increase the sensitivity of her clit and also make her clit more accessible to you.
  15. If she's open to it, gently insert one finger into her anus. Don't overdo the finger motions; her butt isn't a vagina! Just let the presence of your finger stimulate the skin around and just inside her butthole, barely moving it or not moving it at all. Just letting your finger rest slightly inside her will give her a great sense of pressure "back there."
  16. Gently insert on finger partway into her vagina, but don't get carried away--intense internal stimulation can deaden the lighter sensations going on outside. Don't get carried away with multiple fingers, deep penetration, G-spot stroking, or thrusting: just be gentle! A gentle fingertip swirling around the lips of her vagina, then disappearing, then gently stroking her inner vagina, then disappearing, will give a great sensation to accompany your mouth, lips, and teeth on her vulva.
  17. If she doesn't come easily from oral sex, don't try to make her come from it. Use it to get her turned on, or simply to add variety to your lovemaking and foreplay. Rather than knuckling down and performing hard-core oral sex on her for 10 to 20 minutes, give her some gentle mouth attention for a few minutes, then go back to gently fingering her or caressing her breasts. Don't get locked down in one place!
  18. Trim or shave her pussy hair. Having your head and hands so close to her "down there" will excite her, and electric razors give a nice buzzzzzz. Plus, something about this act feels very vulnerable for some women, and some men love to mark her as theirs!
  19. As she gets more turned on and needs harder, more foreceful stimulation, oral sex might need to get passed up in favor of stronger stimulation. There's only so much you can do with your lips, but your fingers, dildos, and cock can give her more when she's ready for more thrusting, stretching, and hard sensation. Don't get stuck on one thing!
  20. Try some pussy torture if BDSM is your thing. Light slapping with a slapper or whip, needles, piercing, and pricking might be fun things to try.

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