9/30/2010

Different Kinds of Submissives


This post will be short and simple! I don't like many of the online "Types of Submissives" Guides, which make it seem like there is a right kind of a submissive and several wrong kinds, or else use deragatory names to refer to submissives. So I'm making my own list!


There are a few different kinds of submissives:


  • service

  • sexual

  • household

  • all of the above

  • pain

The service submissive is probably the most common in my experience. This submissive spends a lot of time doing acts of service, such as drawing the Dom's bath, massaging him (or her) when he's tense, bringing him food and drink, or otherwise making his life more comfortable.



The sexual submissive may not bring the Dom his coffee every morning, but she is sexually available for him at all times. The training for these kinds of submissives often includes sexual training to enlarge the anus for more easy anal sex, learning to deep throat, and other sexual services. This is largely the kind of submission you'll find in erotica stories such as The Training of O.


The household submissive is less common, but this sub spends his or her time cleaning, taking care of the household chores, cooking, and keeping the home neat and welcoming. The only time I've ever heard of someone being ONLY a household sub was a poly situation where other subs were already meeting the Master's needs for sex, service, and companionship.


All of the above submissives incorporate sexual submission, care of the household, and service. These are most common in monogamous BDSM relationships.


Pain submissives are, simply put, masochists. They often don't enjoy other aspects of submission, but they do enjoy pain. These submissives are often only submissive in the bedroom or during a play session, but revert back to an equal relationship when not getting his or her "pain needs" met.


3 comments:

pet foxie said...

I guess you could call me a combination of household, sexual and pain submissive, with service thrown in there (when demanded). I think most people are a combination. Just as we have different facets to our personalities, there are definitely different facets to submission.

Thank you for this great post!

FuckToy said...

Very nice break-down. I think it can get so confusing when all of the blogs feature submission in so many ways.
Thanks for the clarification!

Lilith Pane said...

Thanks for the breakdown. Very insightful.

Love, licks and lashes
-Lil