"Task" Ideas (Homework for your sub)

First off, sex isn't school. So why is there homework? Well, you don't have to incorporate homework, but some subs like it (I don't). Also, some doms and Masters enjoy it.

Remember, your goal as a Dom or Domme is threefold: to bring you sub closer to God, closer to themselves, and closer to you. If giving them an assignment will do any of these three, it is a worthwhile activity that can help grow your sub into a better person.

There are multiple reasons to give tasks to your sub: to train them in obedience, for practice submitting, because they enjoy writing or research, so you can learn about something new without doing the work, to have them research something you like to get to know you better, as a punishment for something they've done wrong, to discipline them, for Teacher/student or Principal/student roleplaying, because you think it's hot, because your sub gets off on this kind of humiliation, or purely for the power rush of making people do what you say (this is actually why I became an educator. Just kidding. At the time, I thought it had something to do with changing the future, leaving the world a better place, yada yada...).

If you want to give your sub an assignment, and it isn't one of their limits, go for it! Remember, the point is to strengthen your sub or your relationship, not to be a controlling jerk. Here are some ideas:

• read Song of Songs (Song of Solomon) or a Christian sex book


• do a devotional of your choosing, reporting back to you at the end of the week (or do it together!)


• do housework with one hand handcuffed or tied, while you watch


• do housework with a dress code (forced feminization for guys, or wearing just an apron or just crotchless panties for girls) while you watch


• writing: erotica, fantasies, or letters to you about the relationship, things they'd like to improve, or favorite memories with you


• writing letters to God


• journaling every day (or once a week, etc.)


• doing research: any subject you'd like to know more on, BDSM, sex tips, relationship advice, etc.


• wear butt plug to do housework or for day (at work or in public)


• apply tiger balm to clit before housework: if they do well, reward with sex, if bad, reapply and give them a good caning. (Tiger balm burns!)


• Remember, this NOT just to get work done you don't want to do--must be something that makes either YOU or your sub feel erotic about doing!


• wear vibrator or remote-controlled sex toy to work or party---fun fun fun at your hands all night!


• take pictures for you


• have them describe themselves to you in sexy terms in permanent black marker. They can pick the four words that are most "Them" and write them, one on their chest, each inner thigh, and just above the crotch.


• cut up old panties into strips and make knotted rope to tie self with


• online or real sex diary, to build confidence or libido


• 15 minutes positive reflection per day


• 15 minutes doing something they enjoy and need but don't do: healthy food, singing, going to the gym, walking outside, dance class, reading, bubble bath and candles, soothing or devotional music, etc.


• tasks geared to help worriers relax: yoga, reading, bubble bath, playing or listening to music, praying, devotion, going to an extra Bible study or praise and worship session in the week


• tasks geared to help low self-esteem get better: list of positive things about themselves (add three things a day!), positive reflection, taking pictures of body parts they don't like as beautiful art, drawing body parts they don't like as beautiful, reading self-esteem books, etc.

Anything that will build your partner up sexually, emotionally, or physically is game. So is anything you both feel comfortable with that will make one or both of you feel sexy or more intimate. As a Dom, you want your spouse to be as happy and healthy as possible! And as their leader in the sexual realm, you can help make that a reality in real life.