The taking

Why the violent orgasm? Why the taking and the biting and the rough? 

Because, he told me, he was a male and could do this to me. This turned me on so much I repeated it in my head a long while. 

Next time, I hope he chants it to me. 

Why Christian Submission Is So Much More than the Duggars

There has been a lot of vitriol about the Duggars these days. Finally, the nonreligious are exulting, another religious leader has turned out to be a hypocrite, proving both him and his religion to be worthless. They are patriarchal fanatics who make their wives submit. I've read several articles along these lines, and they have something worthwhile to say. Articles with titles like "Anna Duggar Won't Leave Her Cheating, Anti-LGBT Husband" and "I Was Almost Anna Duggar." It seems the religious group the Duggars are associated with puts all blame on the woman to be sexually pure and submissive and the husband to be filled with insane, Satanic lusts he must flee from, and his wife must help him in this duty by being available to him. Women are kept in repressive, abusive marriages because they are denied an education, job experience, or any reproductive freedom.

Yet these things just aren't true. Anna Duggar may or may not leave Josh. She probably won't, but it's not our business. Leaving for infidelity might be a valid reason, but why on earth would she leave her husband for opposing gay marriage when she probably feels exactly the same thing? Sorry, folks, but being anti-LGBT is not a reason to grant a marriage divorce.

Yes, Ephesians 5 does instruct women to submit to their husbands, right after it admonishes all Christians to submit to one another in Christ and right before it lists a long set of duties and responsibilities-- the man must take care of his wife on the deepest levels, spiritually as well as mentally, emotionally, and physically. His job description is much longer than hers. Both roles require sacrifice but offer rewards.

This kind of submission, the kind that I and many other Christians embody, does not require a woman to be repressed or held back. I have a master's degree. I have plans to pursue doctorate work someday. I work at a rewarding job where I give back to society and earn a steady paycheck. I'm raising a happy, healthy family, despite my children's best efforts. If something were to happen to my husband, we both know I have the skills and experience to support my family. It would be tough, and not ideal--since I enjoy not being the main breadwinner--but definitely doable. My husband, my big bad dominating Christian husband, has encouraged my continued education and encouraged me to work outside the home as much or as little as I liked. He takes care of most our daily lives. In exchange, I offer him submission in certain areas where with someone who hasn't given so much I might not: Certainly our sex life, but also our hobbies and the state of our house and squeezing pennies.

A man can respect a woman and dominate her. He can cherish a woman and command her. The Bible can be true and all people still treated with dignity and respect. The Duggars have not done anything but something we always knew: Christians are sinners and Christians can be terrible people who make terrible mistakes, and we are all headed for Hell if not for the all-encompassing, overwhelming, indescribable love of Christ.

We Come Together Again

We come together again,

And it is beautiful.

 

We come together in the light of a rainbow dusk

You feel me, you read me, you understand me:

You conquer me.

 

My Julius, your strong hands grip me,

Leave me no choice, take me

 

I shudder under your grip,

Subspace engulfs me,

I relax, sinking down

gratefully

 

You are mine

Your hands say it,

Your hips say it,

Your teeth say it as they tear into my neck

I am yours.

Wondering, worrying

Sometimes, our sex life is so great. Like, a 9/10. And I say that only because I always want to leave room for improvement and growth.

There's domination, rape, when I'm very lucky bondage. (He likes to use his hands, bore!)

I feel so close to him during the day. We laugh a lot together. I think about how good our marriage is and how happy I am.

Sometimes, our sex life is not so great. He seems lazy and uninspired; he tells me he's busy at work. I understand this, but I yearn. I want to be passive, not the one who has to entice and convince and hope and climb on top. I'm disappointed. He pokes around with the lack of skill I imagine a teenage boy would have. He comes too soon. He takes too long to come. He does not want to dominate me.

When those bad times happen, he tells me he's tired, it's just a fluke. When the good times happen he retroactively acts like he planned it all along. Oh, I meant to pretend to fall asleep and upset you and then wake up and rape you. I totally meant to have sex on a fertile day even before you begged me for it. Part of me wants to rejoice that we're so in tune. But the other part of me thinks, is this too in tune? If the bad occasions are a fluke, is it probable the good ones are, too?

The Triple-Header of Sex

The Triple-Header is what I call that crowning achievement of male prowess in the bedroom. It's a little graphic, so head on over to some of my tamer how-tos if that's not what you're in to.







So here's the triple header.


Base 1: He makes you come with his finger. The more the better. Until you're panting for him to stop. No mercy, men.


Base 2: He makes you come with his cock. Either G-spot or clit counts.


Base 3: He makes you come with his cock in your ass. Hits the G-spot from behind, and total domination points.


Win/win.


If that's what you're in to.