My Cat Messed Up My BDSM Scene

Today, my Dom and I were trying to fit in a little action between when I got off work and when he had to go to work.

Cat #1 was being her normal huffy self, off somewhere being a cat. Cat #2 was happily following us around, purring the whole while.

We moved things into the bedroom and climbed under the covers. We spent a few minutes giggling about a conversation we were having. In the meantime, I noticed all our BDSM toys are still out in the shed, where we put them when we thought we'd be moving. I really miss my nipple clamps and my ball gag--they just set the mood in a way nothing else does. But I had the happy thought that we did have our bondage rope in the house, some good thick stuff that is still soft on the skin. My Dom climbed out of bed, retrieved it from a drawer, and hopped back under the covers.

Of course, the rope was hopelessly tangled. He spent a few minutes trying to untangle it. We kept talking and giggling.

Suddenly, from out of the corner of my eye, I saw a flash a movement! My younger cat leapt from some undisclosed hiding position like a furry white rocket and landed right on my stomach, claws splayed and mouth poised to kill. She enthusiastically "killed" the bondage rope and then stood, proud huntress in all her glory, atop both of us and the pile of rope, surveying the damage she had done with a smug face.

Of course, we both burst out into laughter. She did not understand this, and ignored us both, then continued to lie next to me and purr for the next 10 minutes, enthusiastically thwarting all my Dom's attempts to untangle the rope.

Finally, we decided the mood of somber bondage had been ruined and let the cat have her day. I think she still feels quite proud of herself for her "killing leap." Either way, I'm sure the bondage rope has been tamed for the time being.

And my husband and I? We left the rope for the cat and continued with our previous plan, sans bondage.

Nipples!

May I just say nipples are divine?



I don't know if it's the hormones, or just because mine have always been sensitive... but my Dom touching my nipples has added the extra "umph" to just about anything lately.



Turned on by oral sex but can't quite get off? He reaches up to stroke my areolas and I get there. Not turned on enough by kissing and biting my neck to move on yet? He strokes my areolas and I get all tight and turned on.

Nipples rock.

Well, not just nipples. Areolas rock, too. They're an oft-overlooked part of sex and foreplay, I think. Men either want a fistful of boob or they go straight for the tip of the nipple. Give the middle some action, you know?

Not only can I get turned on my having my areolas teased, stroked, massaged, kissed, or lightly pinched, but every once in a while I can even have an orgasm from it. Even though it's not too often, it's always a nice bonus. My hubby likes it, too. :)

And can I just say that there is something so amazingly sexy about having my Dom look down at me, take both my nipples tenderly in his hands, and--making eye contact the whole time--squeeze my nipples hard and watch my face as I deal with the pain? He loves having the control over me and it turns him on. For me, it gives me a hurt-so-good kind of pain and makes me feel wonderfully controlled. And there is just something so intimate about the forced eye contact while he causes me pain and then gently brings me back to pleasure.

Because my nipples and areolas have been the source of so much pleasure in my sex life, I decided to do a little scouring of the internet about them. Here's what I have found:

• Nipples are not made of erectile tissue like penises and clits are. Rather, they stand on end when the muscle underneath them contracts, usually due to the cold or sexual excitement.
• Some women can come from just having their areolas stroked.
• Areolas are erotic zones and charged with nerve endings, just like the nipples.
• Nipples and areolas are considered the 2nd-strongest erogenous zone, after the obvious ones (genitals).
• One study placed the percentage of women who have had breast orgasms at 29%.

So while there is no sure-fire way to make a woman come from touching her breasts, it's still worth it to spend some time exploring her areolas and nipples and seeing what she likes. And, if it's a turn-on for some women, I'd say it's a safe bet that it's a turn-on for some men, too.