"Why Anal Hurts" Review

In his essay "Why Anal Hurts" the 40-year-old author is quick to point out that he advocates painful sexual submission, not sexual abuse or rape. However, he still has ideas most feminists would hate. His whole idea is that men were made to penetrate and dominate, and women were made to submit and receive penetration. From an evolutionary point of view, he's right, and he uses this to justify a man training and hurting a woman with whom he is in a committed relationship:

Anal sex, most sexual acts in fact, should be painful, degrading, humiliating, or some combination of the three for a woman. The reason for that is quite simple: When something pleases you, you are not submitting to it. You are not demonstrating to your man that his protection, shelter, and provision are worthwhile to you. You are not proving that, of the 110 million women in America of potential breeding age, he made the right choice in selecting you to be bound to for the rest of his life.

The truth is, my Dom would probably agree: most sexual acts should be painful, degrading, or humiliating. For him, it's not about showing gratitude for choosing me, it's about submitting as God calls me to and repaying him for taking care of me in our lives.

This explains another reason why anal sex must brutalize and torture your woman. For her entire life—at least as long as you have been hearing that you are a second-class citizen because of your cock—your little slut has been hearing that she’s the one with all the power and control in any and every sexual relationship because of her pussy.

Strongly put, but definitely something my Dom would also agree with. He loves to hurt and bruise me on the inside. He strives to never harm me, but to bruise.  He likes to go wild on top of me and know I am helpless to stop him. He loves to finger me as I try vainly to pull his hand away. And he does believe that too many women today are not dominated in the bedroom, and too many men today are raised to be wusses and wimps. In that, I can agree with him.

The essay is a bit pompous and self-congratulatory, but the author's message is valuable and I believe the article is definitely worth a read.

Fifty Shades of Welcome Home

I'm so tired of hearing about Fifty Shades of Grey. Tired of the Facebook posts I kept coming across: "An Open Letter from a Mother to Her Daughter," "A Letter from a Pastor about Fifty Shades of Grey", etcetera, ad. naseum. Mothers to daughters. Priests to flock. Feminists. Christians. Everyone wanted everyone else to know that what went on in this movie was not okay, not ever, not nohow, not nowhere.




Man hit woman? No. Man coerce woman? No. Man take away woman's choice? Never.


What they all seem to forget is the end of all those sentences. Man hits woman with her willing consent.




The biggest irony of all is the feminists, who by rights should be defending an adult woman's right to engage in any consensual sexual activity,  have jumped right on the bandwagon with the Christians and the mothers.




As someone who lives BDSM and D/s in my life on a fairly steady basis, I wasn't very impressed with the books. Edward--oops, I mean Christian, does lots of threatening and very foreplay-ish dirty talk, but never does he actually do more than tantalizingly threaten. She is never actually hurt. He does not follow through on any threats more scandalous than tying her up and making her listen to soft music. Sensory play. Bleh.




In this very fictional story, the character Christian is actually very straightforward with his potential submissive Anastasia--played by the most boring woman alive in the movie, so I haven't seen it yet--and makes her read and sign a very clear contract before engaging in any physical contact. Anastasia is a woman over 18, and if this turns her on--who are we to care?




Besides, it's obvious than no matter how many Open Letters to Fill-in-the-Blank circulate the internet and garner useless "likes", the truth is this book and movie would not be so popular if deep down, the themes presented here appeal to a lot, and I mean a lot, of women. It has made $400 million dollars in ticket sales, and that's not even including book sales.




Maybe more women will start responding to that appeal and reach out on the internet--to us, to this community. Maybe they will create painfully trite usernames and discover the joys of FetLife, Taken in Hand, and the BDSM blogging community at large.




If you're one of those seekers and you've found your way here, rest a while. We're glad you found us. Welcome home.

Review: Babeland's Naturals Organic Lube

If you're a green girl like me, you like products that are natural, not tested on animals, and good for you.

My newest review product is Babeland's Naturals Organic Lube. I love reviewing lube because it is so useful and fun, something you can use every time you have sex no matter if you're alone with your favorite vibe, jacking off your partner, or having regular ole sex.

I really enjoyed this lube. Of course, for me, Mrs. Animal Rights Activist, the not-tested-on-animals bit was a big plus right from the start. I'm always amazed at the sheer number of commonly used products that use animal testing, and I'm sure people wouldn't use them if they knew animal cruelty was involved.

Aside from the definite plus-plus-plus of being animal-cruelty free (PETA would be proud of this lube), I enjoyed it. The organic lube is thicker than some other lubes I've tried, including KY Touch and Entice by Babeland (one of my favorites), but not as thick as jellies or creams. Since I prefer the thinner lubes, this one got high marks from me.

The lube comes in an easy-to-use squirt jar, which is a lot easier to use quickly in the midst of sex than bottles that you have to open and close. It has a slightly sweet, clean scent, and worked like a charm. I used this with my husband and have used it several times with my favorite vibe, with no complaints either time. In fact, I enjoyed this lube because it is mess-free and easy to wipe up once you're done.

But in the end, the greatest thing about this lube was that it is eco-friendly, green, animal-cruelty free, and natural, and still works and feels and smells just like regular lube. In fact, it was listed as #1 on the New York Times' list of Eco-Friendly Sex Aids. That's right, this lube made national news!

This lube works great, it's easy to use, and it's earth-friendly and body-friendly. What's not to like? What's more, if you don't want to pay the $12 for a full bottle, Babeland offers samples for just a dollar.

To buy this lube, click here or just click on the picture at the top of the post. And if you try it, please comment back here to let me know what you think!

Media Watch Blog Attacks S&M

Media Watch Blog, a group dedicated to identifying and exposing hidden biases of discrimination, hate, or violence in the media and on the web, is now attacking BDSM lifestyles.

Honestly, I can understand where they get it. To the observer, BDSM can be scary--it's violent and often based on vast power imbalances that remind people of ancient days of slavery and women staying at home. But what is always clear about BDSM, in every site or book you read about it, is that BDSM is consensual and that both partners want it. Is Media Watch saying that adults who voluntarily relinquish power should not have the power to do so?

The article lists 10 "lies" about sadomasochism. I'm addressing some of them here.

Lie #1: Pain is Pleasure. The author claims that those who think "pain is pleasure" are enslaved by our culture's insistence that women demonstrate a love for others that is selfless and sometimes harmful to the woman. Well, obviously this author has never had an orgasm from being spanked or having her nipples pinched.

Lie #2: Sadomasochism is love and trust. This isn't a lie; healthy BDSM honestly takes a much higher level of trust for someone than a normal, equal-control marriage. The article points out (accurately) that there are many parallels between BDSM and cults, rape, and sexual assault. This is true, but BDSM is safe, consenual, and used with safewords. Power exchanges in BDSM are used for the enjoyment and betterment of both partners; this is never the case in rape.

Sadomasochism has to do with annihilation. Contrary to the popular legend that sadomasochism expands one’s sexuality, I believe that it restricts and ultimately destroys one’s sexual being. Subordination, humiliation , and torture are all means of deliberately destroying the self.

I have two problems with this statement. First, my experience with S&M is not one of annihilation. My husband does not seek to "destroy" my sense of self, but to encourage me to bare and accept the darker, scarier aspects of my sexuality. If I hadn't been abused when I was younger, maybe I wouldn't be drawn to BDSM, but I am, and this allows me to enjoy sex in a way that makes sense to me.

Lie #3: Sadomasochism is not racist and anti Semitic even though we “act” like slave owners and enslaved Africans, Nazis and persecuted Jews.
Okay, this one is weird to me. I've heard of BDSMers acting like parents, bosses, masters, lovers, and rapists, but I've never heard of any M/s relationships that compared themselves to enslaved Africans or Nazis and Jews. Africans were enslaved involuntarily; they did not put out personal ads on kinky websites asking to find a Master to match their true submissive natures. The Nazis were a group that hated the Jews and so tried to kill them; Masters love their slaves and so try to lead them.

Lie #4: Sadomasochism is consensual; no one gets hurt if they don’t want to get hurt. No one has died from sadomasochistic “scenes.”

Is it ever OK to consent to one’s own humiliation and victimization? I do not
think so.

Wait. A feminist who thinks females should NOT be allowed to choose their own preferences and sexual expression? How original. (::rolls eyes::) And yes, of course people have died from these scenes; I've never heard anyone claim otherwise. BDSM is dangerous; that's why we bloggers and teachers scream "Safewords!" and "Safety First!" Deaths and injury have occured. I've written about these topics myself.


Lie #9: Reenacting abuse heals abuse. Sadomasochism heals emotional wounds from childhood sexual assault.

A greater percentage of women “into sadomasochism” have histories of childhood sexual assault, than those women who do not participate in sadomasochism. However, sadomasochism obscures the real pain and abuse of women...Sadomasochism is a repetition, not a healing, of childhood sexual assault. Some have suggested that sadomasochism can actually be physiologically addictive.

Yes, I've heard that women with histories of assault are more likely to end up in the BDSM community. I've actually conducted a survey on BDSM and abuse with similar findings. However, there are many men and women in the community with no history of abuse. Whether a woman is healing or simply repeating her learned helplessness, if she is with a loving, permanent partner who allows her to enjoy sexuality the way she wants to, can this be wrong? Sure, I find it likely that my past experiences with nonconsenual power exchange, emotional abuse, and sexually manipulative men shaped me into a woman who enjoys being sexually submissive. So? My husband knows this and is careful with me. He is willing to do what feels "right" to me, no matter what society thinks. When I safeword, there has never been an instance where he did not stop immediately. In fact, even with past boyfriends, if I safeworded or indicated I was ready to stop, there has never been a time a man did not immediately respect my wish.


In all honesty, I think it's good that there are people out there writing thoughtful, well-documented articles against BDSM. With all the good and not-so-good BDSM resources out there, it's easy for newbies or wanna-bes to fall into BDSM and fancy themselves the World's Next Great Master or the Twoo Submissive Searching for Love. It's important for us to realize that yes, there are people who abuse BDSM and use it for violence, abuse, slavery, racism, and other bad things. I'm honestly glad someone pointed it out. But to pretend like that's all BDSM is? That's an obvious lie.

Wait, maybe we could add that to Media Watch's list!

Lie #11: Sadomasochism is harmful for its adherents.

Review: The B-Bomb Anal Plug

I always like Good Vibrations' products because they are high quality and I know my money is going to a sex-friendly, very positive and open sex store--somewhere I don't feel sleazy ordering from their website. A few months ago, they sent me the B-Bomb Butt Plug, but with all the house remodeling and things being moved around so much, it just disappeared.

So I was pretty happy last week when my husband started looking through the top of the closet and found the toy. Whew!

Of course, we tried it out. It was a fun scene. Instead of warming me up with anal beads (which are smaller than plugs), my Dom just went right into the plug. I was sooo nervous! But really, I didn't have to worry about it. He used lube and went slowly. I kept getting really tense, but he just kept his hand on my back and kept telling me in a soothing voice to relax, and he was right---it didn't hurt. This plug went in easily and slipped out easily, which is one of the great things about silicone. The material is so soft and rubbery, I'd highly recommend it for any beginners to anal play.

Of course, the B-Bomb has a tapered end, like all anal toys should, to avoid the dangerous situation of toys getting stuck inside you. (Awkward trip to the emergency room, anyone?) It's 4 inches long and under 1.5 inches at the widest part, so I feel safe recommending this for beginners to anal play who feel intimidated by something bigger.

What makes the B-Bomb unique among the anal toys I've tried is that it comes with a bullet vibrator. For people who enjoy a little bit of anal vibration, this is a good feature. I found the vibration light, not too strong or intense. Still, while I can enjoy some anal play, I'm not a fan of vibrating in my bum... so this was an easy fix, and we just switched it off. The B-Bomb is a cool toy because it can be used as a vibrating anal toy or just a regular butt plug, whichever you prefer.

Good Vibrations is currently having a promotion where you get 10% off all safer sex products. You should also check out their cool account feature where you can create a personalized "wish list" of all the toys you'd like but can't afford right now or are out of stock. I've used this feature before, and it makes it easy to remember exactly what I wanted when I come back three months later and can't remember a toy's name. The company will also send you a courtesy email to let you know when your listed products come back in stock or go on sale.

Re-review of the Hummingbird

I've changed my mind.
The Hummingbird from Babeland Toys is actually a pretty great little toy!
See, I am nothing if not loyal. And with my vibrator, I may be a little too loyal. I try other vibes out so I can do reviews, but for "me time," all I ever use is my trusty Wild G Rabbit. That thing is like my second lover. End of a BDSM scene? Get the Rabbit G. End of sex? Finish me off with the Rabbit G. Want an orgasm but too tired to have sex? Have my husband use the Rabbit G. Stressed out and want to relax? Get out the Rabbit G.

I love my rabbit vibrator so much that I broke it once and spent the ridiculous $65 to buy another one and have it shipped to us before our honeymoon... because, folks, it's worth it. I'm not the kind of woman to spend more than $25 on a pair of jeans, but for my all-time favorite, super-duper best friend the Rabbit G, I'll fork over the money!

But I think I started to overuse it. We had sex like 5 times in 48 hours, and each time after he finished, we used the rabbit on me. At first, it was phenomenal. The second time, it was okay. The third... well, it took me so long to come it started to get annoying instead of sexy. By the fourth time, I was whimpering a little bit in protest when my habit-forming husband did what we always do after sex: got out the Rabbit G. The fifth time, I lay in bed exhausted, kissed him on the forehead, and encouraged him to go off to class without worrying about me.

But I still wanted that orgasm.

Obviously, my friend the rabbit had been overused in too short a time and my clit was no longer interested in his attentions. I wondered if any of my other vibes---the ones I tried a few times for a review and then discarded unceremoniously because they didn't match up to my rabbit---would work.

After my Dom had left for class, I spent some time in bed, peering into our Sex Toy Drawer and wondering which one of the sex toys within should be brought out, dusted off, washed, and used. Honestly, I wasn't holding out much hope. But it was worth a shot.

I finally decided I wanted to use this one, a neat little toy that had been my favorite before I discovered the Rabbit G. I looked, but I couldn't find the darn thing! I finally vaguely remembered that it had broken and I had thrown it away since I didn't use it that much anyway, ever since the Rabbit G moved in.

Too bad.
With a sigh, I got out this and this. I figured they would be close to the intense clit stimulation I would need and had gotten used to with the Rabbit G. I remembered having 1 (one!!!) good orgasm with the Hummingbird that I had never, after much trying, been able to re-create. I also remembered that when I bought it from Babeland, I'd been really excited to try it out because it had this yummy-looking clit cradle that I now thought might give me some good all-around vulva stimulation. Just in case that didn't work, I kept out the barely-used Aqua Wand to see if maybe its clitoral stimulating abilities would be better than my first try.

Wow.

Wow!

It took me a while to get the Hummingbird to a place where I was as turned on as I used to get with my trust old rabbit, but once I was there.... wow.

I kept changing the position, feeling the hollowed-out end cradling my clit, then my right labia, then my lips and my clit, then my other labia. I felt my insides swell out and push out that hot, clear liquid that my husband loves so much. (Take that, author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot! It is possible to ejaculate just from stimulation on your clit!) Then, I had that wonderful feeling when you know you're going to orgasm. And finally, I did.

Once I was all cleaned up and still glowing from the bask of a new, stronger orgasm than I'd ever had with this old vibrator, I wrote my husband a blog that went something like this:

My clit and pussy and uterus are trembling from the resounding tingle
leftover in my veins from when the little gray vibrator brought me to new
heights and beyond.

So, this is the lesson I learned today: no matter how wonderful and fulfilling and great your one favorite vibe may feel, sometimes it is important to give Old Faithful a rest and try something new, even if it's something you didn't like all that much before. It's very possible for your body to dislike something and a few months or years later, find it terribly orgasmic. Change is good. Change is sexy. Change is the key.


Welcome back, Hummingbird!


Follow the links...
To read my original review of the Hummingbird
To read my original review of the Aqua Wand
To read my original review of the Orchid G
To read my original review of the Wild G Rabbit
To read my original review of Female Ejaculation and the G-spot by Deborah Sundahl
To go to Babeland Toys online store, which sells the Hummingbird, Aqua Wand, and Orchid G
To go to The Adult Toy Shoppe, which sells the Wild Rabbit G

Review: Smart Balls

The latest product I've tried are two different types of smart balls from Good Vibrations. It took me a while to get around to trying them, since the wedding and honeymoon were this month, but once the craziness of that died down I pulled them out and my hubby and I tried them.

The first, Smartballs Teneo Kegel Sex Toy, is a single ball. I liked the notch for finger placement, making insertion much, much easier. The size was good: not too big and not too small. I found I needed lube to insert the ball at all, but it came with a sample packet so that was no problem. Also, the ridges on the ball are there to increase stimulation, but once inside I really couldn't feel the ridges at all. I practiced with the ball a few times and found them really easy to do Kegels with. If you're new at Kegels, I think these small balls would be a great idea.

The second one, Smartballs, are two balls connected with a string for easy removal. Just like the single, these balls have smaller balls inside, making for interesting weight and a jingling sound. These balls were a little harder to insert because 1. there are two balls so it takes twice the space and 2. the first ball does not have the notch for your finger.

The balls are both made of elastomer, are 1.25" diameter, and the only difference is if you want to practice Kegels with 1 or 2 balls. I wouldn't try these for a sex toy, because even though they provide some G-spot stimulation and are good for slow arousal, they're mostly for Kegel exercise and aren't designed to bring you to orgasm like lots of Good Vibrations toys are.

If you're not even sure what Kegels are or why they're important, let me just say that they improve your orgasms and strengthen your muscles for all sorts of important tasks like having sex and bearing children.

If Kegel smartballs aren't your thing, Good Vibrations is also having a 25% off sale on four of their luxury vibrators.... and I always like to browse their bondage and fetish section. Enjoy!

Holiday Savings for Online Sex Toys

It's the holiday season, and as Thanksgiving comes and goes, the Christmas season and subsequent shopping spree will begin.



Did you know that sex toys are becoming one of the most popular gifts this year? It's true! Right around the time the economy started to fall, lipstick and sex toy sales went way up---people started buying small, economical gifts for themselves and their loved ones that they could enjoy without burning a hole in their pocket. And while sex toys are usually more expensive than lipstick, these gifts can help you create a date night where you and your loved one stay in to celebrate the holidays and go easy on your wallet.



I've been checking out sex toy and fetish websites, scouring the web for good holiday deals for my readers. Here's what I've found.



As always, I started with Babeland and Good Vibrations, because these are two stores I've worked with a lot in the past and I true. I like how both these stores are women-friendly, sex-positive stores that focus on quality products and sex education, not sleazy pornographic pictures and sky-high prices. These stores are friendly to all types: straight or gay, Christian or not, woman or man. They also have a great selection of all sorts of lubes and sex toys, although their BDSM and bondage section is pretty small, and both stores have good customer service and discreet shipping every time I use them.



Once I'd checked out the holiday deals at those stores, I checked some other stores I've used. Some were having holiday sales; some weren't. I also found some new sites that are offering holiday deals or have a particularly low price for some top-selling toys I think my readers might be interested in, such as the Hitachi Wand (the most popular sex toy ever, as far as I can tell) or the We Vibe, a new luxury toy meant to be worn during intercourse (I want it! I want it! I want it!).



Here's what I found. None of these stores has asked me to do this and I'm not getting any sort of compensation for these reviews; this is all just information I found that I wanted to share with my readers as the holidays begin.

• Babeland is having several holiday specials. Their Black Friday Extravaganza is going on from now til 11/30, and you get a free vibrator + free shipping if you buy anything over $70. From now til Christmas, you can have free shipping on any orders of $50 or more (that's one good sex toy, so it's worth it), and if you own a blog you can also write a short post about one of their Objects of Desire that you want for Christmas (or any other holiday!) and enter a drawing. The winner will be picked on Christmas day and will receive $1,000 worth of sex toys from the store, so if you like sex toys, you might as well enter and test your luck.


• Good Vibrations isn't having any holiday specials (yet) that I've found, but they do offer a $5-0ff coupon if you sign up for the email newsletters. This store also has a wider selection of BDSM, fetish, and bondage toys than Babeland, including several good books and some toys not only intended for beginners.


• Eden's Fantasy is having holiday sales, including free shipping on orders over $59. They're also offering 35% off California Exotic Rabbits and 50% off on some selected toys. For cute stocking stuffers, they also have some cheap vibes and toys for under $10 on their Sale page. This store passed the important "Anal Lube Test" (meaning, like Babeland and Good Vibes, they don't sell desensitizing anal lubricants, which are dangerous for customers and indicate a store cares more about making a buck than customer safety), and Eden's Fantasy also has a decent bondage and fetish collection for sale.


• I was really pleased to discover the online store My Pleasure. This store's webpage is neat, tidy, and classy. There are no pornographic images and customers can feel good about purchasing there. My Pleasure has an education section with loads of information about sex, toys, lubricants, and more; they also pass the Anal Lube Test. They're also having a holiday sale on several vibrators, dildos, costumes, lingerie, and other items. During the week of Thanksgiving, you can get 10% off all purchases, 15% off purchases of $75 or more, and 20% off purchases of $125 or more.


• Xtreme Restraints is, in my opinion, not a classy, customer-friendly sex store. I really hate the online stores that show pornographic ads and seem to think sex is a dirty secret to make money on rather than a special bonding experience between two adults. Not surprisingly, they failed the Anal Lube Test. However, I felt this store was worth mentioning because it offers a wide array of BDSM toys and gear for everyone from total beginners to Masters with years of experience. Whether you want medical gear, fetish wear, costumes, head gear, chastity devices, enema supplies, mouth gags, or serious bondage equipment, this store offers it. Xtreme Restraints is also having a holiday sale and is offering free shipping on orders more than $69.


• Sensual Sutra is another site I found that passed the Anal Lube Test and is classy and positive about sexuality. On the other hand, you can tell a lot about a store by their lubricant section, and I noticed this store didn't have a lot of quality lube (except the standards Eros and Astroglide that you find everywhere) but had a lot of flavored and sugary lubes that seemed more fit for a teenager's chapstick flavors than an adult's lubricant. This store has a few restraint items (mostly different types of handcuffs) and no big holiday product sales that I could find, although they are offering free shipping on orders more than $89.

While perusing these sites, I never found one that sold my favorite vibrator of all time, the Rabbit G, sold by Adult Toy Shoppe (that store, unfortunately, has not posted any holiday sales). If you can't decide what toy to get your loved one, I highly, highly recommend this one. Basically, it's fantastic--so fantastic I broke mine. (Oops.) Still, I use it even broken, and I long for the day I can afford a new one. This baby might be expensive, but it's well worth it--I've tried a plethora of dildos and vibrators in my time, and even other rabbit vibes, but nothing else even comes close.

Anyway, as Thanksgiving draws near, have a happy and safe holiday and start thinking about what to buy for Christmas gifts! :)

Review: Truth or Dare Game

"Truth or Dare" is the new game my Dom and I got from Good Vibrations. Right now, the store is having a sweet 25%-off sale their entire site! I'd go over and check it out, if not for the Truth or Dare game, then for one of their rabbit vibrators, which are my very, very fave! :)

It took me a while to write a blog about this game because, well, there are so many cards to play with. My Dom and I tried it out, but we only got through about a quarter of the cards. So we waited a bit and then tried it out again... and then again. In my opinion, this is a very good thing, because you can have fun with this game over and over again without running into the same cards. A definite plus!

I loved the cute little box the game came in; it was elegant and sweet all at the same time. The cards are divided into two piles: truth and dare. In truth (ha! get it?), we had a lot more fun with the "truth" cards. In fact, I'd recommend buying this game simply for the fun, imaginative questions that will get you and your partner talking and laughing and getting to know each other's secret desires and funniest moments, whether you've been together for a month or forty years.

I'm big on bonding, so I loved the questions. Questions like, How much money would it take to get you to strip in public? and What were your earliest fantasies and what was so sexy about them? really got us talking. We loved giggling over the questions and sharing together. Rather than just answering the questions, we ended up talking and laughing about them for several minutes before moving on to the next one. Even things we had already talked about, it was fun--and sexy--to relive our best moments or hottest fantasies. And the cards suggested several fun questions we'd never even dreamed of! This game is great if only to get you and your honey communicating more and better---which is always a good thing for a relationship and a good sex life!

As for the "dare" cards, I wasn't so sold on those. Some of them were sexy and cute, but some were just a bit weird: for example, my Dom got one that said, Pretend you're at the gym and make up a sexy workout routine for your partner to watch. Hmmm.... awkward. I mean, it might turn him on to watch me stretch and bend, but to have a grown man do it--- not so much. (Not for me, anyway.) Now, if you want to get into some light BDSM, these cards will help you do it: One of you gets to be the Master for 5 minutes, and the other one must obey is a light, fun way to introduce your partner to some light bondage and submission, but if you're already into heavier aspects of BDSM, these cards aren't really going to stretch your limits.

In the end, Truth or Dare is a fun game for couples to play, laugh, and have some sweet, sexy times together. Good Vibrations has it on sale now for just $12.71 (normally $16.95) and it's definitely worth that just for the good laughs and sexy ambience the game provides.

And please take advantage of the store's three-day 25% off sale--it's worth it!

Breast Cancer and Lubes!

It's October, and that means it's Breast Cancer Awareness month. It's time to support all the stores out there who are supporting women, and there are a lot of them. Some of these stores include NFL, Home & Gardens, Babeland, Twitter, and more!

For all you women out there, here's how to do a self-breast exam. Doing this simple procedure once a month can help protect you from breast cancer by finding the warning signs early.

Babeland has a great program for the month of October. Buy any of their Pink October toys and they'll donate part of the proceeds to fighting breast cancer!

Also, Babeland has a great, great savings program right now that I love! It's called Stock Up and Save. Basically, the company is giving you a 25% discount on the three things we all use most in our sex lives: lubes, condoms, and batteries.

Now, I don't use condoms, so I can't be any help to you there (but all products have customer reviews at the bottom of the page), but I am a very picky lube user, so I'm excited about this sale. I am picky about lubes because both my Dom and I have sensitive skin. We didn't know this until we tried two varieties of lube (from a store other than Babeland) that were perfectly fine for vaginal use but that stung like MAD during anal use. And let me tell you, there is no less sexy way to end a BDSM session than when I have to jump up and run to the bathroom before I scream. Not only did it disappoint us both, but I totally lost any arousal we'd had worked up. So the moral of this story? Only use lubes that you trust.

My favorite, favorite lubricant ever is Entice by Babeland. My Dom and I love it since it's clear, colorless, odorless, and easy to use. And the best thing about it is that it is completely comfortable and painless, even with anal use. Any time we use sex toys, dildos, butt plugs, or even when we tried fisting, we used Entice. You can get a bottle for $6 or even try a sample for just $1.50.

Another thing I like from Babeland is that you can sample a lot of items for cheap before you have to invest big bucks in a bottle of something you might not even like. If you are new to the lubricant world, or just like to try new samples for cheap, Babeland has a cool Lube Sampler Pack where you can try six mini-packets of lube for $7. And the sampler pack includes my fave, Entice, so if you want to sample it because you don't trust me when I say it's awesome, this gives you an easy way to do it.

Babeland also has Babelicious, a flavored lube, that is still glycerin free. I don't do flavored lubes, but a lot of people love them, so give it a shot if that's your thing.

They also have popular and famous lubes like Astroglide and Maximus, which is a really heavy lube safe for anyone wanting to do anal play. The Maximus is on sale, anywhere from $1 for a sample to $16 for a big bottle.

Anyway, because I don't believe in sending my readers to buy batteries and condoms online when they could get them at their local grocery store for cheaper and without the shipping costs, I went online and checked out some prices for AA batteries like the ones Babeland sells. I was surprised (and impressed), but Babeland actually sells their batteries at the same mark-up as major stores like Walmart. So you won't lose money by buying your condoms and batteries there, especially with the 25% Stock Up and Save discount, and you'll definitely get a better quality lubricant than you'll find in local pharmacies and sex shops. Check it out!

Review: Stroke 29 Cream

Ooops. When I bought this, I just read the description (not the title) and I thought I was just getting regular lube.

Oh well.

Needless to say, I was a bit shocked when I got the box and it said "Stroke 29: Masturbation Cream!" While this is a type of lube, it is a lube only to be used for hand jobs, not for vaginal or anal sex, so I didn't get what I thought I was getting. Silly me, since once I went back and read the description again, it was pretty clear I'd made a mistake and not understood what I was getting. Oh well! I handed it to my honey and shrugged.

As far as Stroke 29 being the best male masturbation cream ever, I can't tell you because my Dom is not a big jerker and when we do it together, I prefer to do it dry. But we gave it a go, and he liked it.

Stroke 29 is definitely a cream, not a liquid, and it's thick and gooey at the beginning. I liked that it was easy to warm up in my hands (I don't want to put cold goo on his dick!) and that, once we'd started, we did not need to go back for more. Ever. Ever, ever, ever. My Dom can go forever (a whole 'nother story, there...) but this stuff lasted. It was like the Energizer Bunny! This made my life easier, plus made the entire experience easier on my hands and wrists.

As far as the company's claim that the cream will eventually feel like "aroused human tissue".... *snorts*. I think not. Sorry, but no cream, lube, Fleshlight, or fake vagina is ever going to feel like the real deal, no matter what sex shop adverts try to convince us. Oh well... my Dom and I didn't expect my hands to magically turn into a moist vagina with this cream, so we weren't disappointed when it didn't happen.

I've just asked him what he thought and he says that, unlike other lubes, this cream was slick but not so slick that he couldn't feel any friction. In other words, it stayed enjoyable even when it was slick and fast.

I will say that the cream is smooth, it's easy to use, and it's easy to clean up. The thickness evaporates quickly and after a few strokes you are left with a silky glide much like other lubes and lotions I've tried, but without the mess. It also has coconut oil and Aloe Vera, making it good for the skin and leaving my hands (and his nether regions, I'd imagine) soft and smooth afterward. It was like a manicure, but free!

Stroke 29 isn't cheap---it's normally $22 at Babeland, but on sale now for more like $17---but the jar is huge so I can't imagine we'll have to buy another one anytime soon. So as far as lubes go, if you and your hubby like to start out with a nice, long hand job, it's worth your money because this jar will last forever. Energizer Bunny, remember?

Enjoy!

G-Twist Vibe

I got to review the G-Twist Vibe from Good Vibrations. Not only do these vibes come in a host of fun colors (mine was dark blue, my favorite!), but they definitely live up to their name: they hit the G-spot, and the twisted ribbing around the shaft gives much more sensation than the poor attempts for texture seen in many other vibes.

While I still don't love any vibe as much as my trusted rabbit vibe, the G-Twist was a fun break and served to warm me up wonderfully.

The curved tip provides G-spot stimulation, while the vibe is really quiet. It works on two AA batteries and goes from mild stimulation to more intense. If you need to start with a smaller vibration and work your way up to more (like me!), this is a good feature that some other vibes won't have.

Of course, anything that runs on battery power isn't going to be as powerful as the more expensive electric plug-in vibrators such as the Hitachi Magic Wand. I'd say this vibe ranges from light intensity to medium, but it never does reach what I'd call a high-intensity vibration, even when compared to some of my other battery-powered vibes.

One thing I did really appreciate about the G-Twist is its soft, squishy material and flexible shaft. One thing I hate about vibrators is, after looking forward to receiving them in the mail, they end up being made of such hard plastic that it is painful to use them. However, the G-Twist has a soft silicone body that won't injure your sensitive spots even with vigorous thrusting. I was doubly pleased that this shaft is flexible and can bend with your body, since I tend to contort my body in all sorts of strange ways when near orgasm and hate vibrators that won't bend with me, or worse, cause pain when I move. I've even broken a vibe in the past doing this, much to my dismay. Thankfully, this vibe won't break even if you move around a lot with it; it just molds to your body and bends with you.

Oh, and one more thing: the vibrator's description says it has a "strategically placed clit ridge," which had me all happy and excited because I find it difficult to orgasm without inside and outside stimulation. However, I'm a pretty normal height (5'5 1/2") so I assume I have a pretty normal body size, but the shaft was too long for the clit ridge to come anywhere near to resting against my clit. So get this vibrator if you like internal stimulation and lots of ridged textures on the inside, but don't count on the clit ridge hitting you in the right spot on the outside.

If you're curious to read more reviews or see a description, swing by Good Vibrations and check out the G-Twist, available for $64 plus shipping and handling.

Clover Nipple Clamps

I had the opportunity to review these clover nipple clamps last week. How did they measure up?

Love them, love them, love them!

First, these clamps are so sexy yet terrifying at the same time. As soon as my Dom put them on me, I was hooked. These clamps hook tightly to the nipples, giving me a much more intense and painful sensation than the plastic clothespins we used to use.

My partner liked them too, saying he appreciated how cold they were against my skin and how that made me shiver in anticipation. He also liked how he had better control of the clamps because he could just grab the chain and tug if the pain was starting to subside for me. This made the clamps tighten so we never got bored, and it also helped because he could tighten both clamps simultaneously instead of having to fidget with one at a time.

Plus, I felt damn sexy with that chain hanging down between my breasts.

The down side? First, they hurt--a lot--so they aren't a good idea to just whip out on a partner who has never tried nipple pain before. Also, these clover clamps eventually have to be taken off---and trust me, if they've been on for very long, the pain when you suddenly remove them is un-be-liev-able. The first time we used them and took them off, I was in such agony I thought my nipples were going to be out of commission for days (they weren't, of course). But by the next day, they were fine and I was craving more of the clover clamps... only this time, I quickly reminded my partner to take them off after a few minutes of play.

I like these clamps because they're more attractive than many other types of clamps (to me), made of simple metal and therefore easy to clean, and give a lot meaner "bite" than a lot of the so-called "BDSM and bondage" toys you find in a lot of sex shops... it's always disappointing when the "BDSM" section turns to be a bunch of fuzzy handcuffs and some light paddles. These are actually a real BDSM toy that give a real BDSM sensation--awesome! I also like them because they can be used on both men and women.

I am sure I'll be using these clover clamps for some time to come. I was never that into nipple pain before, but I'm growing to like it more and more the more I try it!

For anyone interested in some sexy nipple clamps, I'd recommend you head on over to Babeland and order these clover clamps, available for $24 plus shipping and handling.

Review: Under the Bed Restraints

Hello and we're back with another review!! This under-the-bed restraint set from Babeland is my newest kinky find. I really enjoyed them!

The first plus is the set's ease of use, both for "put up" and "tear down" time. Like the door jam cuffs, I like these because my Dom and I have lots of friends and family members over who are not kink friendly, so we can't exactly have dungeon implements and permanent restraints drilled into our walls. So we use lots of restraints and handcuffs that are easy to use and just as easy to make disappear into a drawer.

These under-the-bed restraints do that, and they are the only temporary restraints we own that allow for total immobilization. Since I'm the one who loves playing with bondage (pain is more his style!), I was very excited to try them. We have a few sets of handcuffs, but none that attach to my ankles.

The cuffs were comfy on my wrists and ankles, with no pain even when I pulled and--at one point--flipped myself completely over. I was worried the adjustable velcro on the cuffs wouldn't hold, but it did. I do have fairly small wrists, and the cuffs were almost too big to fit me, but by pulling them tight my Dom made it work. If you or your partner has exceptionally tiny wrists, these might not fit.

My Dom got the cuffs set up under the bed in no time. First he secured my wrists. I was waiting, but not too patiently, because as soon as he fastened my ankle cuffs, I whined, "These ropes are too long; I can still move!" I pulled on the ropes to demonstrate. With a sigh, my Dom grabbed the adjustable straps (that I hadn't noticed) and said, "The people who made these are smart, sweetie. Just wait." He pulled, and the straps adjusted just as quickly and easily as backpack straps that work the same way do, and suddenly our under-the-bed restraint was a perfect fit for me: my hands and ankles were all tied, in a comfortably tight position!

The only downside of these cuffs is the same downside of any bondage gear: you can't use it too long or your partner's hands/feet will lose circulation. When using bondage, check every few minutes to make sure your partner's hands aren't getting cold, because that's the first sign. And trust me, freezing and numb hands make it impossible to concentrate on a scene.

Overall, I found these cuffs to be comfortable, easy to use and adjust, and effective. I loved being restrained at both my wrists and ankles, not just my wrists. And for my Dom, it was easier to spank me when I had only limited mobility and couldn't wriggle away!

The cuffs are removable and made of fabric for easy cleaning, and the set is adjustable so it fits any mattress size. The best part? It's easy to put away completely, leaving no traces that you have to awkwardly try to explain away to your mother-in-law next time she visits and wanders into your room. Click here to purchase the cuffs or learn more, and check out Babeland's newest deal: a free bottle of lubricant if you purchase their new music-activated vibrator, Freestyle!

Review: Door Jam Cuffs

My Dom and I own several pair of handcuffs, and I've never been disappointed by Babeland's cuffs. Their door jam cuffs were no exception; they worked great, were sturdy, and most importantly, were fun! :)

The door jam cuffs are permanently attached to the straps, which makes bondage easy since you don't have to fasten any locks or tie any straps like with some other pairs I own. You simply throw them over any door, shut the door, and viola!, instant bondage.

They came in the mail a few weeks ago, and my excited Dom immediately threw them over our bedroom door, ready for play. Sadly, life got busy and so they just hung there, unused. But the great thing about them was that whenever company was coming over, it was so easy to simply remove them and tuck them into a drawer. Unlike actually screwing holes into your wall, these cuffs make suspension bondage without permanently damaging your home.

I was actually very impressed with these cuffs once I got them on---or rather, once my Dom got them on me. Since they're so light and temporary, I expected them to feel that way, but they don't. The velcro cuffs were snug and did not come off with lots of pulling (I tried!). The fleece was soft against my hands and did not chafe or bite even with the most violent struggling. Even best of all, I was in awe of how strong the cuffs were---at one point, my Dom lifted my feet off the ground so most of my weight was on the cuffs.... I started screeching that the cuff straps would break and I'd crash onto my face---but it never happened. Seriously, I wouldn't try levitation with these cuffs since that's not what they're made for, but we did and they held. These door jam cuffs are actually really strong.

The best part, though, is how easy they are to put away once you're done. Once the bondage is over, simply open the door, remove the cuffs, and all traces of the scene are gone.

Honestly, these cuffs are affordable ($30), comfy, and strong, so I don't see many downsides. The only problem would be if you wanted to do bondage for a long period of time, because any time someone's hands are suspended about her head, they will eventually fall asleep. (I just started whining through my gag after my hands went numb and my Dom took the cuffs off.)

If you want to order these cuffs, get more information, or see customer reviews, go to Babeland's Door Jam Cuff page to see what all the fuss is about!

Hair Bondage 101

Below is a link to a video by Graydancer on Hair Bondage 101. Graydancer is something of a rope guru, and his website and videos show viewers how to do everything from simple to complex rope bondage. If you can do a basic slipknot and have a spouse (of either sex!) with medium- to long hair, you can follow this simple hair bondage video.

Why would I want to tie up hair?, you ask.

I asked myself the same thing. I can see how tying someone's body would be sexy, but hair? But after watching this video, I can see the appeal. By binding someone's hair, you have greater control over their head and neck, without using dangerous neck bondage or messing with the pretty symmetry of their face. If you like control, or forced oral sex, or having physical control over your lover's movements, binding their hair and controlling their head will give you that.

Graydancer's video has three basic segments, starting with simple and moving to more complex bondage. The first hair bondage trick he shows looks very easy, and I think anyone could do it with a rewind button and some practice. The second one involves braiding and is still very doable. For the last, and most complex, you have to have some patience and materials, but the whole video is very beginner-friendly.

The thing I didn't like about this video was, for no logical reason, both Graydancer and his female hair model are nude. In some BDSM vidoes, I can see why the model would need to be nude (body bondage, etc.), but in this case it just seems pointless. The good news is, you only ever see the girl's head and back, and Graydancer definitely does not have a porn star body. For the most part, the girl's head covers everything but his face and hairy chest, but a few times you can see his scrotum. (Gross.) Why? Beats me. Maybe they thought making psuedo-pornographic BDSM videos would market them to a bigger audience.

Oh, and at the end the model pretends to give head to Graydancer. Again, a superfluous little addition that doesn't really add anything to the video.

If you can get past the nudity and the hairy man-chest, this video really is quite easy to understand and would be a good place to start for rope bondage beginners.

If you're interested in rope bondage or trying out hair/rope bondage, check out Graydancer's video. And be sure to come back and leave a comment telling me what you thought of the video and what you'd like to see more of on my site! :)

Review: Boss Lady and Angel Vibes

Babeland is always having awesome sales, and I love their current one! I've been drooling over their We-Vibe (a yummy-looking deluxe hands-free vibrator you can wear during sex) for months, and right now they're offering $20 off the vibrator, plus a free BabeLicious.

If the We-Vibe doesn't tickle your fancy, I propose two other vibrators you can get from Babeland: The Boss Lady and the Angel.

The reason I propose them together is because, well... together they rock! I've been playing around with them singly, and they are fun, but together... whoa.

Let me explain.

What is so cool about these toys is that they are both G-spot toys and they are also both vibrators. Their special curved tip makes for great G-spot stimulation, but the fact that they vibrate means they can feel great against your clit, too. This is one reason I love vibrating G-spot toys, because they are so versatile.

The Angel vibe is shown below:
What I love about the Angel is that this unique vibe has a shape you won't find anywhere else. It's small and fits inside easily, and it's terribly comfortable. The curved tip makes for easy G-spot fun, but what I adored about this vibe was that the same slender, curved tip feels awesome on my clit! I can use this vibe as a G-toy, clit toy, or both.

Angel is small (about 4 inches) and compact, so great for travelers like me. It also has eight intensity levels so I never got bored, and also three different pulsation patterns. Because it is so small, lightweight, comfortable, and can be used on my G-spot to warm up and then my clit to finish off, this has become my #1 traveling vibrator.

So I got this great idea to try the Angel together with the Boss Lady (shown at left). Wow!

The Boss Lady is thick and hard, so I enjoy it when I'm wanting a sense of fullness inside me. My Dom enjoyed using it with me and watching my face! The vibrations are really powerful, and the curved tip also provides for really good G-spot stimulation. The Boss Lady is also hefty and hard enough that it can be used as a great dildo even without the vibrations. However, this silicone I found to be a bit harder than some other vibrators, so I would recommend using it only with lots of lubricant. I tried it without lube, and even though I was wet and ready, the Boss Lady irritated my skin. Once I applied some lube, though, I had no problems.

So my genius idea was to slide the Angel into my G-spot to warm me up. Once I was ready, I used the Boss Lady to deliver powerful vibrations inside me while I held the tip of the Angel on my clit, using different speeds to keep my turned on. It felt great, so I highly recommend these toys together! However, it's a bit hard to wield the two vibes together without a partner helping, so invite your partner to hold one for you so you can enjoy the ride.

I enjoyed both the Angel and the Boss Lady, especially in tandem. But if you only want one vibe, I'd go with the Angel because it is so comfortable and versatile. Either way, it's a fun buy!

Review: Expert Guide to Oral Sex video

Last night I watched my very first instructional video on cunnilingus. The video, "Expert Guide to Oral Sex, part one: Cunnilingus" is one of Babeland's video series on oral sex. It is led by Tristan Taormino, a well-known "sexpert", author, porn director, and speaker.

In the end, I was disappointed with the video because I wanted more actual tips and less video of people doing it.

I was eager to get some advice on cunnilingus since this is an area of our sex life that has gone downhill in recent months. At the beginning, oral sex was good because it was new, exciting, and fresh, but once I got used to having it, it got boring. So I was excited to get some tips that we could use to share and explore.


At first, I thought the guide was a book. I thought it would be pretty sweet to order a book full of oral sex tips, but I figured out as soon as I went to Babeland's site that it was a video. Well, that was okay, so I went ahead and ordered it.

My Dom's first question when he opened the mail was, "Did you order porn?"

I was a little taken aback. I told him no, and he said, "Well, you just got a video that says something about 'Extra girl-on-girl scene!'"

I finally had a chance to open the video last night. My Dom was uncomfortable watching it, so he just listened. I went ahead and watched. Luckily, the video gives you menu options, so I just skipped right over the videos of different couples having oral sex on camera and went straight to the Cunnilingus Workshop section. Here, Tristan Taormino is giving a live presentation with a female actress to a group of people who ask questions and observe her working. She gives lots of good tips for oral sex (don't go straight for the clit, different techniques my Dom had never thought of, etc.) and some rather common sense onces (different positions for oral sex).

Overall, I did learn a lot. But I'd have preferred to get the same information without watching Tristan Taormino actually perform oral sex on this actress while she was doing it. I know my anti-porn stance puts me at odds with many in the BDSM world (and hey, with many in the real world!) but that's what works for my Dom, me, and our morals and faith.

Needless to say, we didn't watch the scenes of other couples trying out the techniques in the video. We also skipped the part labeled "Bonus girl-on-girl scene!" We watched it for the techniques, and we did get some good tips.

The video, aside from a section on positions, techniques, and using toys, also includes chapters on safe sex techniques and how to use toys to enhance oral sex.

The tips given in it are good tips, but I'd still have preferred a book. The Guide to Oral Sex video was $35, while the book Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus is only $14.95 and focuses much more on actual techniques and less on visually stimulating presentations. So I'd say skip the video and buy the book. I know I am now dying to read that book, so it will soon by on my order list!

Review: Entice lubricant

Entice is my new favorite lubricant!

I've had a hard time finding a lube that both my Dom and I like. The biggest problem, of course, is how it feels inside.... and our current lube, when used on him anally, inflamed the sensitive anal tissues and actually stung. Needless to say, that stopped our anal exploration for a while!

Since a good lubricant is a must have for anal, and his reaction to our current lube was, "It stings!", I was looking for a new option. Also, the other lube was thick and creamy, disgustingly sticky, and burned me a bit, too (when used anally, although not vaginally---who knows why???).

So I was excited to try this out! I've loved Entice so far. It is water-based and perfect for people with sensitive skin, which both my Dom and I have. It comes out of the bottle cold, so warm it up on your hands before applying it to skin, but it is slick and wet. Although in the high-heat, high-friction situation of hand jobs, the lubricant dried out quickly and left a sticky residue, in all other situations (sex, anal + finger, anal +toy, vagina + toy), Entice has held up great! It is easy to apply, soft, and with no weird aftertaste and no bad smell. It is also slick rather than sticky, so I appreciate that, since I'm a girlie-girl at heart and hate to have sticky stuff all over my hands.

Another bonus? The glass bottle is easy to clean... since, of course, when you grab it with sticky, lubed-up hands mid-sex, it gets lube and body fluids all over it. Just a simple rinse takes care of it and the bottle is as good as new!

Entice comes in two sizes, 1 oz ($6) or 4 oz ($15). For those with sensitive skin or those who hate messes, this lubricant is a good investment!

To view this product, click on the banner below or find the link to Entice lube here. And as an added bonus, Babeland is selling all products without sales tax on April 15, 2009!

Review: SHARE Dildo

Share is a sweet silicone dildo from Toys in Babeland. It was the first time I'd had experience with a dildo you and a partner can use at the same time (hence the name!), so I had fun trying it out with my Dom. It was worth it to review just for the laughs.

Share is a totally unique bedroom toy because it is a "strapless strap-on." Believe me, those are hard to come by! Rather than strapping on the dildo, you insert the shorter, thicker end into you vagina and use it that way. The toy is silicone, meaning it's soft, comfy on my skin (much better than those hard plastic toys--ouch!), and easy to clean, which is important if you're going to be using a toy for any sort of pentration. It comes in pink, deep purple (the one I reviewed and it's beautiful!), or a more manly black if you so desire. The "penis" end of the dildo is 7 inches long and an inch and a half thick, while the thicker end is 1 3/4" by 5 1/2". Of course, Share requires no batteries and runs on manpower alone.

While Share is probably more geared toward lesbian lovers, it is also A-ok for heteros, too, like my Dom and me. You just need a guy willing to give anal penetration a try! Luckily for me, my Dom is adventerous enough to try anything, so we gave it a shot.

The only downfall of Share is that one of the partners has to be female, since the "strap-on" end must be inserted into a vagina.

Because I am the one with a vagina, the penetration part was going to be all up to me, but before we started the "dual action," we played around with Share a bit just as a regular hand-held dildo. And it worked that way, too! I wanted to experience how both ends felt first-hand, and so we began. My partner inserted the longer, slender end and we played a bit with that. I liked the extra length of Share, although without lubricant the silicone felt awkward and almost gave my skin a burning sensation. With lube, however, this went away. As an additional plus, the soft bulging end made a good natural hand-held spot for my Dom.

Next we tried the other end on me, and I loooooved this. Loved it! The thickness and unique shape of Share felt wonderful. It was a perfect fit, with an awesome balance of thickness and unique curves to fit in all the right places. Of course, this end was too short to be used with any sort of in-and-out motion, but holding it in and squeezing my inner muscles was enough to make me happy!

My Dom was game for some anal penetration, although I was worried because we'd never tried anything quite so long or thick with him before. But we went slowly and worked with some Babeland lube, which worked great, and were eventually able to insert Share all the way. In certain positions the dildo hurt him and had to be removed, but once we found "the spot" he relaxed and reported it was "a lot of pressure and, once I got used to it, it felt good." From behind and atop him, I was able to insert the dildo into both of us, which felt better for both of us and gave us some great, sexy body-to-body time with kissing and small thrusts on my part (it felt heavenly for me). We both loved the physical contact and shared pleasure Share allows, and I enjoyed getting to press my whole body into him while moaning with pleasure into his ear.

Of course, Share isn't perfect (what toy is??? or person, for that matter?). Since this was my first time with a make-shift penis attached to my body, thrusting was new and awkward for me and I was never able to achieve much momentum. Also, without a strap to keep Share on my body, it tended to slip out if I wasn't careful. My partner also wanted to try dual penetration with us standing and me behind him, but we weren't able to manage that position with Share. Still, trying awkwardly to line up our standing bodies was good for a laugh!

In the end, I enjoyed both ends of Share and my Dom says it would be a great anal toy for men and women who already have some experience in the anal realm. Babeland has come up with yet another funky, enjoyable toy.