11/10/2008

A Lesson in Dirty Talk

(Warning: Blog contains derogatory language!)

As the Master or Dom, I feel dirty talk plays a vital role in setting the mood. I know this may appear to be a cliché topic, however I feel most people do not explore this avenue far enough. Right now you may get away with calling your lady by her favorite, dirty nickname. You should know if she's okay with this, she may want to hear a little more out of you. It is perfectly fine to push this envelope. They will probably enjoy your assertiveness, even if your partner isn't into pain or binding. My goal today is to help you find a way to turn on the Sub through a little humiliation and the greater exercise of your control. Trust me, they will appreciate your efforts.

The best guidance I can give is this; be descriptive! You can use common words all day long like tramp or slut. They may work for your purposes. I would suggest dressing these words up with a few adjectives. Just try using words like easy, hot, or wet in front of your standby favorites. This will create a sharp contrast from what the Sub is used to hearing and will cause them to feel more dirty, which equals them feeling more turned on. Lucky you! Now you sound like a creative and controlling Dom!

In the heat of the moment it is often difficult to come up with dirty names for your cute, little Sub. This considered, I made a list of dirty adjectives to help you more on your journey to hot, wild bedroom talk. Enjoy them!

Adjectives

Easy
-Eating (this should be preceded by a noun. Further examples of this will be denoted with an *)
Fast
Hot
Lewd
Libertine (if you're feeling Victorian)
-Licking (*)
Loose
-Loving (*)
Lusty
Slutty
-Teasing (*)
Tight
Wet
Wanton
-Worshiping (*)

Controlling your Sub is not limited to name calling! Be sure you describe what you are doing to your slave every step of the way. Do not pass this off as being completely obvious, it works. Try being a little descriptive like I mentioned. After you do this be sure to act a little incredulous when they let you get what you want. A simple, “I can't believe you're letting me do this. You're so nasty!” or “I didn't think you wanted it!” All that is left is more of the same and listening to your servant pant.

I mentioned earlier dirty talk will lead your Sub to feel humiliation. It is imperative you use this feeling to your advantage. The goal is not to insult your partner, but to break them down. It is the same technique a drill instructor would use on recruits during boot camp. Once your partner has “broken down” in the bedroom, they are under your complete control. The total control of another during sex is state I find to be exhilarating. The Sub likes the feeling of having no control and being at the bidding of someone they trust and love. It allows them a worry-free state, where they are able to relax and take whatever you as the Dom dish out.

Good luck, have fun, and stay safe!

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