A Kinkster's Guide

In his essay " Why Anal Hurts " the 40-year-old author is quick to point out that he advocates painful sexual submission, not sexu...

While I consider our relationship to fall within the umbrella of Taken in Hand (TIH) relationships, I think for us, anal sex has evolved to...

Sometimes, my Dom is a little afraid to hurt me. To be mean to me. To demand submission when I honestly don't want to give it. Culturall...

Trust issues are a major barrier in any relationship, but in D/s they really make things come to a screeching halt. This is because BDSM is ...

I think codependency gets a bad rap these days. Dauntless Vitality has written a great post about neediness in subs . He says most subs will...

The last few days, I have been struggling with anxiety again. I've been off medicine for about 6 months, right before we go...

I hope everyone had a very Merry Christmas! I did. I had a great time visiting with my family and both the Christmas services I went to were...

The other day, my Dom used our bondage rope for a wonderfully devious purpose--to force me to do his will during the scene. Instead of tying...

Today there was a discussion on Fetlife about what kinds of things slaves and subs must ask permission to do. While most D/s relationships h...

My Dom has asked me to research and blog about some common slave positions, so here it is! The idea of slave positions comes originally from...

"Do it the way you want to, otherwise you become a slave to the role of Master." A lot of Doms and Masters want to know, "Is ...

Yesterday, after writing my exhausting blog on BDSM Identity Crisis, I spent the rest of my day in a funk. I was sad, blue, and gloomy. My ...

A discussion I've started on Fetlife is about how to make someone submit. I'm very curious to know more about this topic. A lot of p...

All you tops, Doms, Dommes, Mistresses, Daddies, and Owners! Sometimes in BDSM, the "real world" keeps a couple from the kinkiness...

Puppy play is a new area for me, although one that's always been hot. There's something so repellent in the idea of being degraded i...

Why is it that men and women who are educated, smart, efficient businessmen, professionals, teachers, doctors, educators, and students in th...

One of the most fun things about being a sub is getting to be treated like the nasty, dirty little whore I am! We subs are usually one of tw...

Many BDSMers in M/s (Master/slave) and D/s (Dominant/slave) relationships have contracts or rules. These can be rules the couple agrees on t...

Chastity belts--available online and in kink/bondage stores--are just another way evil Doms can have kinky fun with their hapless subs ! ...