tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post6234171917081866613..comments2023-11-05T07:33:48.161-06:00Comments on A Kinkster's Guide: Marriage Isn't Perfect and Neither is D/sSexpertshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00781112894636030593noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post-37713276485820265012012-07-05T11:57:45.491-05:002012-07-05T11:57:45.491-05:00@Pain, I agree, I think the "newness" we...@Pain, I agree, I think the "newness" wears off. BDSM is so exciting, both sexually and mentally, when you are new! But it takes work to keep it up. <br /><br />@Conina, thanks! I've missed writing, too! And you are so right that it's just easier to blog about happiness when you're feeling happy. <br /><br />@Stormy, I love that your blog includes honest details. It would probably be very depressing for your many devoted readers if we all thought your relationship was perfect and easy, because OURS are difficult is is nice to read about someone else's struggles and triumphs, too!Sexpertshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00781112894636030593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post-56050696580760274272012-07-04T14:28:11.057-05:002012-07-04T14:28:11.057-05:00I've missed you.
It's difficult sometimes...I've missed you.<br /><br />It's difficult sometimes to go into the tough parts, especially when your other half reads your blog and it's a sensitive issue in the first place. Sometimes I would post about something but the momentum is lost when I am holding it until we have resolved it to our mutual satisfaction. And then the happier stuff takes over my mind and I'd much prefer to dwell on it.Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post-68794419953692301252012-07-04T00:30:15.824-05:002012-07-04T00:30:15.824-05:00I agree, I appreciate the "real" and the...I agree, I appreciate the "real" and the nitty gritty. Often I'm embarrassed to share on my blog my silly mistakes, repeated bad habits or things I get spanked for. But I strive to be honest in this lifestyle, the ups and downs..the really perfect moments and the confusing messy stuff.<br /><br />It's all a learning experience.Stormyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16673792378276047115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post-23601038139552038552012-06-30T12:02:29.494-05:002012-06-30T12:02:29.494-05:00Thank you for the mention, and for your very kind ...Thank you for the mention, and for your very kind support. I was (and continue to) be ambivalent about sharing the tough stuff. I'd like to "look good" like everyone else. But that is not real marriage or real life, outside of or within the BDSM lifestyle. It's nice to know there is some purpose in exposing our hardships, aside from giving me an outet!<br /><br />SaraSarahttp://findingsara.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post-40424402441206960262012-06-28T15:15:09.081-05:002012-06-28T15:15:09.081-05:00I would say you are far from alone but perhaps the...I would say you are far from alone but perhaps there is a tendencey for people to only blog about the good parts which really doesnt give a clearer picture but then thats their personal choice.<br /><br />No relationship is easy and M/s or D/s is a relationship so its subject to the same stresses that vanilla relationships have but just of a different nature.<br /><br />Im surmmising here but i think a contribution on why some people find it a struggle after a while is because the feel of the 'newness' and excitement of it all waivers, its like the reality doesnt match up to the fantasy of what we imagined it to be like.<br /><br />I have been with my Master 5 years and its a struggle, sometimes i have these yearnings of wishing i could just be 'normal' lol because its so intense at times, the feelings and emotions, the adjustments that have to be made etc it can just get so overwhelming still.<br /><br />Sure there are great times, moments when it just all fits together and i wouldnt want it any other way...but its similar to a roller coaster ride full of ups and downs and i believe thats all part of the course...survive the downs and your all the more stronger for it.<br /><br />Sorry for writing an essay.<br /><br />toritorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.com