tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post5379367585718918475..comments2023-11-05T07:33:48.161-06:00Comments on A Kinkster's Guide: The One Twue WaySexpertshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00781112894636030593noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post-74829055378314798292011-06-18T19:26:05.655-05:002011-06-18T19:26:05.655-05:00This was an excellent post and I hope more people ...This was an excellent post and I hope more people realize that we can be Christian, sexual, complicated, and still moral at the same time. Heterosexuality comes in all forms and flavors and I hope that more in the BDSM community realize that there is more than their one, twue way of doing things.Chrisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post-82658900458742342332011-06-16T10:17:16.782-05:002011-06-16T10:17:16.782-05:00Ariia, good luck in Texas! I hope the community th...Ariia, good luck in Texas! I hope the community there is more what you're looking for. <br /><br />Miss Spider, I'm very sorry to hear that. A lot of "vanilla" folk do not understand BDSM except as a world of leather and porn. Just pray and read your Bible and God will show you what He wants for your life.Sexpertshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00781112894636030593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post-26837493894996278372011-06-15T22:59:56.875-05:002011-06-15T22:59:56.875-05:00I just wanted to say "thank you" for hav...I just wanted to say "thank you" for having this blog. Tonight I came out as a Switch to my father, and attempted to share a very private and personal part of my life with him... He, in return, called it unnatural, unhealthy, morally wrong, not comparable to a "real" relationship, and far from any kind of a true "Christian Lifestyle". In fact, he made me promise to speak with a minister and a counselor about my views because he believes they will agree with him and point me away from this "life of sin". Understandably, it has cut me deep and even as i type this, it still makes me want to cry. <br /><br />Thank you for giving me even the smallest amount of encouragement that there isn't anything wrong with me, and that I am in fact following my True Master's plan for me (God). May He bless your Dom, you, and Y/your very precious cargo. <3 Miss SpiderMiss Spidernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2136102288666163738.post-52714525546313227572011-06-15T06:12:30.997-05:002011-06-15T06:12:30.997-05:00I agree, there is no one twue way. A relationship ...I agree, there is no one twue way. A relationship between two (or more) people is as unique as the people are. I agree there are MANY ways to do things, no matter what kind of relationship you have. Look at all the books out there on Vanilla Marriages and how many different books there are on BDSM relationships. If there was a one size fits all way, we'd only need one book. But we have THOUSANDS of them. <br /><br />I think online communities are there to help bring people together in real life. I know I joined FetLife so that Master and I could find people around us who were also kinky, who would get the fact that we are different and we like it that way. I've dropped many groups for feeling there was only one way to do things. It drives me nuts to be told what to do or how to do something by anyone other than Master (and he drives me nuts sometimes too). <br /><br />I've borrowed rules (or I should say Master has borrowed rules) from various sources, helping to make our rules fit our relationship. But not one single thing we have ever done is a carbon copy of what someone else has done. We live our lives for us, not for others. We live differently because we are different. I wouldn't want to be someone else (even on bad days, when I wish I looked like someone else). I like who I am, I like who Master is, I like that we are different, that we are the only two people willing to put up with the other for life. I love that about us. I get most of our ideas from blogs, and I get most of our real life relationships by meeting people from FetLife. It didn't go so well here in New York, but we have high hopes that Texas will be better (I hear they're friendlier and a bit closer to our age down there lol). <br /><br />Anyway, the only true way, is what works for the individuals in that relationship. There is no "one size fits all" when it comes to love. There never has been.autumnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03524335203374166596noreply@blogger.com